Divorce—The Big Lie
By David J. Stewart | June 2008
“Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.” —Ephesians 4:31-32
The first thing people do when they want a divorce is look for excuses to justify it. This is true of all sins. Such wickedness is nothing new to modern times, for in Jeremiah 7:8-10 the Jews were committing murder, adultery and idolatry and claiming it was God's will to do so in God's house. Can you imagine?
Sadly, the easiest place to find excuses today to divorce is in your local church. This is tragic! Something is very wrong! You'd think that the one place divorce would be discouraged is in a New Testament Church. I mean, if there's one place in the world where the institution of marriage should be strengthened, it's in a church! Unfortunately, hordes of carnally-minded people these days teach that it's ok to get a divorce. This is NOT Biblical.
Think about the fact that wicked Hilary Clinton faithfully stood by her habitually adulterous husband, while millions of so-called “Christian” wives have divorced their husbands for every reason under the sun. Nearly every pastor, Bible-teacher and Christian counselor today foolishly teaches that divorce is permissible in the case of adultery. What about murder, theft and drunkenness? Does it make sense that God would permit divorce for one sin, but not another? Furthermore, if adultery is grounds for divorce, then every man who lusts ought to be divorced, because Jesus said lust is the sin of adultery (Matthew 5:28). Obviously Jesus was not permitting divorce!
California is a Hellhole!
It is apostasy! In the year 1900, the divorce rate was less than 1% in the United States! Today, just in California the divorce rate has soared to 75.54%!!! If you've ever been to California, then you know why. While I was there in both 2009 and 2010 for surgery, I felt the insanity of the culture of California. California is truly the granola state, that is, the land of fruits and nuts. A lot of people are just downright rotten and malicious over there, and their divorce rate is solid evidence of the worse than Sodom and Gomorrah culture. Filthy TV shows like the Simpsons, South Park and Family Guy aren't the product of a few sicko minds; but rather, the outflow of an entire sick-minded area of the country.
Californians are some of the most wicked, sinfully proud, idolatrous, covetous, adulterous, weird, arrogant, cutthroat, hypocritical, mean, and evil people in the world. Please don't misunderstand, wickedness is everywhere in the world, and America across the board is being flooded with hell; but California is leading the way in immoral smut, arrogant blasphemy against God, defiance of God's Word, freakism, and apostate religious leaders. The Lordship Salvation cult is rooted in California. There are more demonic cults operating out of California than anywhere else in the nation. Bohemian Grove is in California for a reason! It's a liberal, evil and whacko area of the nation. Los Angeles produces more pornography than anywhere else in the world! California is a hellhole!!!
Wicked People Seek to Justify the Sin of Divorce
The Pharisees came to Jesus, asking Him if it is ok to divorce for every cause... “The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?” (Matthew 19:3). Carefully notice the phrase... FOR EVERY CAUSE? In other words, are there any grounds for divorce? Jesus answered them by reiterating the permanence of the marriage bond... “Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder” (Matthew 19:6).
The Pharisees didn't hear what they wanted to hear. If (as so many apostate ministers teach today) divorce were permissible in cases of adultery, then Jesus certainly would have responded very differently to the Pharisees question; BUT, He didn't. Jesus reinforced the importance of keeping one's marriage vows. The Lord said that divorce is only caused by a hard heart. Matthew 19:8, “He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.” God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16). Too bad most people don't hate what God hates... sin; instead people hate each other like Satan.
Clearly, divorce is never acceptable. We live in a wicked generation where the end is often used to justify the means. In other words, a lot of people claim that divorce is the best thing they ever did; thus attempting to turn wrong into right. Abortion is murder; yet people say it is good because it limits the population. Pornography is the sin of lust and adultery; yet people say it is good because it gives people an outlet. Drunkenness is a sin; yet people say legalized booze is good because it prevents crime cartels. In every case, these people are elevating their own sinful will over God's Commandments. The same is true of the sin of divorce. Hollywood has popularized what pastor J. Vernon McGee termed “Progressive Adultery,” going from one sex partner to the next, divorcing and remarrying every 5 to 10 years. It is sinful.
Divorce is the Sin of Unforgiveness
Even more wicked is when a person files for divorce, ignoring the pleas of their spouse not to divorce. I can't think of anything more evil than a person who divorces a hurting spouse who is begging for forgiveness and doesn't want a divorce. It is cruel. The Bible warns that God will judge each individual by the same standard by which they judge others. If you show no mercy and forgiveness, than neither will God when it's your turn to be judged in eternity. Mark 4:24, “And he said unto them, Take heed what ye hear: with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you: and unto you that hear shall more be given.”
Tammy Faye Bakker said she forgave her husband of divorce only after she divorced him. That is not forgiveness, but sinful and malicious vengeance. She sinned against God by divorcing her husband. She avenged herself against him, leaving him to rot with 50-year prison sentence, and only then forgave him? That's like forgiving someone after you hit them with a baseball bat. That's not forgiveness. What kind of a monster would abandon and divorce their spouse in prison? I don't expect a selfish and evil generation to understand God's unconditional love.
Tammy Faye Bakker was living high-on-the-hog just like her husband. The newsmedia demonized Jim while making Tammy look like a victim (because she became a public supporter of gay rights). It is sickening. Most women who file for divorce go around parading their husband's faults while not mentioning their own. It is utter hypocrisy! If you have to hurt somebody before you can forgive them, that is hatred. Romans 12:19 says vengeance belongs to God alone.
Never Gossip About Anyone, Especially Your Family!
Husbands and wives know each other better than anyone, and therefore can do major damage if they turn malicious in public against each other. Proverb 10:12, “Hatred stirreth up strifes: but love covereth all sins.” Jesus said that divorce only happens because of a hard heart (Matthew 19:8). In almost every case, those who file for divorce are also hostile, malicious, slanderous and full of contempt toward their spouse.
Likewise, children have their parents at a large disadvantage in that children see all of their parent's mistakes and marriage arguments while growing up. Kids grow up, move out and generally parents don't see the faults of their adult children. I believe this is why the Bible tells children to honor their parents in the Ten Commandments. Children see every mistake that their parents make. Thus, children can be very hard on their parents. Children tend to be self-righteous and judgmental toward their less than perfect parents.
I believe this was the sin of Noah's son, Ham, who saw his drunken father's nakedness and went and told his brothers (Genesis 9:20-23). There is speculation concerning the meaning of this Scripture passage. It appears that Ham judged his father, as if to say, look at my preacher father in his drunken condition!
Only a self-righteous hypocrite would think it acceptable to parade one's sins for others to see. Human nature is evil (Jeremiah 17:9). Every Christian ought to declare war against all forms of gossip! Colossians 3:1-2 teach Christians to set their affections on things above where Christ is seated. If people would obey this Scripture, then they wouldn't go around speaking evil of their spouse.
I know a man whose wife divorced him. She went around telling every person she met what a horrible sinner her husband was. The husband begged her not to divorce, but she was hard-hearted and refused to reconcile. Years later, she even lied to her children, trying to convince them that the husband wanted the divorce (which wasn't true at all). The husband even made sure that the divorce agreement stated in black and white that his wife refused to reconcile with him, knowing that she'd one day likely try to blame him (and he was right).
The husband was completely devastated by the divorce. In response to his wife's hatred, the husband more than doubled the legally required monthly support payments to his wife to show his affection and goodwill toward her. In spite of his love, the wife persisted to slander and gossip about him to others. Countless people became hateful of the man and he had to move away because of the hostility he encountered in stores and even at church, where one church told him not to return. This is the evil and damage that gossip causes, which the perpetrator (in this case the wife) doesn't feel the trauma of. God ponders the hearts my friend, and nothing goes unnoticed by our heavenly father. Matthew 10:30, “But the very hairs of your head are all numbered.” God will judge people in eternity for the very words they speak (Matthew 12:36). Life is short and we'll all be in eternity before long. Let go, let God.
There was a faithful couple in our church. This was back in the 1980's. The wife taught a Sunday school class, and the husband drove a church bus. There marriage went through some storms and ran ashore on the rocks, she filed for divorce. I remember hearing her tell another group of women in the church that she caught her husband in bed with another man. She was slandering her husband, telling everyone that she caught him in bed with another man.
- First, it is a sin to go around spreading gossip about anyone (most gossip is true). Those who spread gossip are condemning the person being criticized. If that rotten wife realized just how sinful she was, then she'd shut her mouth and not say anything about her man. James 2:10 teaches that everyone is just as guilty in God's eyes as the worst sinner. One sin is all it takes to send a person to Hell forever.
- Second, if she loved her husband unconditionally with God's love, then she'd conceal his sins instead of parading them. Proverb 10:12, “Hatred stirreth up strifes: but love covereth all sins.” Anytime you hear someone talking about another person's sins, then you know they are self-righteousness, not right with God, and will talk evil about you behind your back as well. Critics are dangerous people! The Bible in Proverbs has much to say about the evils of slandering, gossiping and telling tales to your neighbour. Proverb 11:9, “An hypocrite with his mouth destroyeth his neighbour: but through knowledge shall the just be delivered.”
- Third, God is going to judge that evil wife by the same standard by which she judged her husband. Words are like bullets, killing a person's reputation and name. When you gossip (whether true or not) about a person, you might as well put a gun to their head and pull the trigger. You are killing their joy, life and reputation. The Godless newsmedia hide behind free speech and their sinful claim that the public has a right to know; but the truth is that they make profits by exploiting the hardships and misfortune of others. You'll never see a news article tearing down the reputation of the owners of the newspaper. They are malicious hypocrites! The newsmedia make a living by destroying other people's lives. God hates gossip, whether it be privately between two people or broadcast on the 6 o'clock news. Those hypocrites who parade the sins of others will suffer the wrath and vengeance of a holy God.
So the Pharisees pushed the issue, demanding an answer from the Lord about divorce... "They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?" (Matthew 19:7). The Pharisees, as do many heathens today, were looking for justification for the sin of divorce. Jesus wouldn't give it to them.
The Pharisees came to Jesus with the same question that many people ask today, i.e., "Is it ok to divorce if one's spouse commits adultery?" Here is what Jesus told them in Matthew 19:8... "Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so." This was Jesus' response to the question about divorce in the case of adultery. Jesus DIDN'T say divorce was permissible. The Pharisees had asked Jesus twice about the possibility of a divorce, and Jesus refuted their reasoning BOTH times. This clearly and irrefutably evidences that the Lord Jesus Christ does NOT approve of divorce. It is only because of a wicked, stubborn, HARD heart that a person refuses to forgive and be reconciled with their repentant spouse.
Some people try to justify divorce by quoting Matthew 5:32 and Matthew 19:9; but any honest Bible-student knows that proper Bible exegesis of any particular Scripture requires a comparison with all other related Scriptures. Matthew 5:32 properly explains Matthew 19:9. Matthew 5:32 states, "But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery."
Jesus was actually condemning divorce in this Scripture. In other words... "Any man who divorces his wife is causing her to commit adultery in remarriage, unless she was already guilty of adultery, in which case the man would not be blamed for causing her to commit adultery." However, this Scripture in no way diminishes the sin of divorce. There is NOTHING in Matthew 5:32 that permits divorce. Matthew 19:9 has the same meaning.
They key Scripture when speaking of divorce is Matthew 19:8... "Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so." Matthew 19:8, when compared with other Scriptures on divorce, quickly shoots down all the modern apostates who teach that Jesus allowed divorce. No Sir! That is NOT what the Bible teaches. Jesus plainly stated that divorce is ALWAYS the result of a sinful HARD-HEART.
Remarriage Forbidden for Those Who Divorce
In Mark 10:11-12, Jesus plainly stated... "Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery." I heard a well-known Bible-scholar say that the Bible only prohibits divorce; but remarriage of divorced person's is ok. He's dead wrong! Mark 10:11 proves him a liar. If a woman divorces her husband, she is absolutely forbidden from getting remarried.
To remarry is adultery! 1st Corinthians 7:10-11, "And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife." Very few preachers are involved in the ministry of reconciliation of marriages; but this is what the Bible teaches. A divorced woman, if she filed, has NO right to remarry, and is Biblically forbidden to do so. God will judge all offenders (2nd Corinthians 5:10).
Conflict Between the Gospels?
Mark 10:12 warns, "And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery." And again in Luke 16:18 we read, "Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery." Matthew is the only Apostle writer who seems to give an exception to the rule, i.e., permission to divorce. It is abundantly clear to me, and I think also to any honest Bible student, that Matthew's account must be interpreted in view of those of Mark and Luke as well. There can be no conflict between the Gospels. Neither Mark, nor Luke, spoke of any justification for divorce. Thus, I believe it is wrong to conclude that Jesus allowed for divorce in Matthew; when Mark and Luke clearly do not agree with such speculation.
Too many people interpret the Bible by always looking for the exception to the rule. Thus, should it be surprising that Godless feminists have developed their own Feminist Theology? Should it be surprising that homosexuals have rewritten their own Bible, called the New Oxford Annotated Bible? It is ironic that so many witches, Satanists, abortionists, fornicators, sodomites, and atheists will quote the Bible in an attempt to prove their point. And yes, so do many heathens manipulate the Scriptures in an attempt to whitewash their sin of divorce.
The Hypocrisy of Divorce
Jesus' disciples asked Him how many times they were required to forgive a fallen brother. In Matthew 18:22 Jesus responded... "I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven." How is it then that the same pastor who believes that Jesus taught to forgive 490 TIMES, doesn't believe in forgiving even once in the case of a spouse guilty of adultery? Hypocrites! Jesus taught unlimited forgiveness; BUT divorce offers no mercy, no forgiveness, no reconciliation, no hope of a happy reunited marriage. Oh, how God hates the sin of divorce! (Malachi 2:16).
Divorce is a sin of self-righteousness, where a person declares them self less sinful and; therefore, possessing the right to abandon, forsake and divorce their spouse. James 2:10 shows just how wicked we all are... "For whosoever shall keep the whole law, and yet offend in one point, he is guilty of all." You're just as sinful, selfish, and rotten as you think your spouse is!
Why God Hates Divorce!
You know, why is it that many people who want a divorce go around quoting Jesus' statement on adultery; but I never hear these people quote Malachi 2:16 where God say he HATES divorce, "For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away." "Putting away" is the Old Testament term used for divorce, which is an interesting phrase. The term "putting away" comes from the Hebrew word shalach, and literally means "to forsake, to cast or push away." When you divorce your spouse, you are literally shoving them away from you, forsaking them, and God HATES IT.
I've heard a divorced woman quote Malachi 2:14 concerning husbands who deal "treacherously" with their wives; but the context of the Scripture passage is strictly divorce. That is, a husband who divorces his wife is dealing treacherously with her, especially if they've been married for a long time. God HATES divorce! Why don't I ever heard women quoting Jeremiah 3:20... "Surely as a wife treacherously departeth from her husband, so have ye dealt treacherously with me, O house of Israel, saith the LORD." It is divorce that is treacherous.
Titus 1:16, “They profess that they know God; but in works they deny him, being abominable, and disobedient, and unto every good work reprobate.”
Although God will forgive you for the sin of divorce if you seek it, the consequences of your evil will irreversibly hurt the family for a lifetime. The damage cannot be undone. The lives destroyed cannot be rebuilt. The hatred and bitterness caused by a divorce often lasts for decades and until the grave. No wonder God hates divorce so much; it is a sin that perpetuates for a lifetime.
I know what really makes God angry are the marriage-meddlers who are quick to destroy other couple's marriages and families—either because they've ruined their own and misery loves company, or because they're self righteousness hypocrites judging things that they don't fully understand, or they're just plain evil. They think they're helping a wife and doing a good thing; but in reality they are destroying a husband and forcing the children to pay for the sin of divorce.
The serpent came along in the Garden of Eden and deceived Eve into eating the forbidden fruit, and in so doing she ruined the lives of Adam and her children. The same is true with the forbidden fruit of divorce. It will ruin the lives of your family, while the serpents merrily go their way without a care in life. What do they care if they destroy YOUR marriage? What do they lose if they ruin YOUR marriage? What does it cost them? Nothing!
Don't be a fool. Don't make the lawyers richer. Don't give the New World Order more ammunition of another broken family. Nearly every woman who divorces her husband has a list of his faults that she uses in an attempt to justify her evil decision to break her marriage vows. And since there's a bunch of idiots like her who've also quit their marriages, fools are never in need of more fools for companionship. It's called feminism.
The Bible says concerning a godly woman in Proverb 31:12, “She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.” If you don't like my preaching, then get mad at God because He said it. A godly woman will do her husband good, and not evil, all the days of her life. Divorce is an evil of evils. In fact, next to murdering your spouse it's the worse thing you can ever do to hurt them. In many cases divorce is much worse than death, and preferred by the victim of a divorce. There is no heart's pain in this world any worse than being abandoned by the wife or husband of one's youth.
I could just as easily have applied this truth to women, but there is a big difference. Women find a lot more emotional support, shelters and sympathy in a failing marriage than men do. For that reason, and because women file for divorce at more than twice the rate of men, I reach out primarily to women. My heart's intention is pure before God. I hope to prevent some divorces. Please don't do it. Don't murder your marriage because it's less than perfect.
You know, that's exactly what divorce is, you're murdering your marriage. You might as well take a gun and pull the trigger on your spouse when you file for divorce. If divorce is a light or trifle matter to you, it is only because you have no loyalty nor fear of God before your eyes. Most people don't (Romans 3:18-19).
Listen to me carefully you Christian wives. Couple's descend into the abyss of life's problems together in a marriage, but when one receives what seems like a helping hand out of the pit, and leaves the other spouse to drown in the miseries and burdens of life by filing for divorce... no wonder divorce is the number one cause of suicide amongst men!!! If you abandon your spouse and leave him to drown in his burdens, afflictions and heartaches in life, you're exactly like Satan.
Please don't follow the way of a wicked woman!
Divorce is Never Biblical
Tammy Fay Bakker of The PTL CLUB (praise the Lord club) said she forgave her husband of adultery when she divorced him. That is so evil on her part. Although I am not in the position to judge her sincerity, I can say confidently that she sinned horribly against her husband by divorcing him. Tammy condemned her husband and decided to punish him by divorcing him. God forbids taking matters into our own hands (James 4:12, 5:9). Jim Bakker was sentenced to 45-years in prison and his wife divorced him while he was rotting in prison. I can't think of anything more evil for a woman to do.
Later Jim Bakker was paroled from prison after 5-years, but Tammy had abandoned him. Although society condemned Bakker as the scum-of-the-earth for misappropriating ministry money, adultery, and lying to contributors (they wanted him to burn in Hell); Tammy walked away like she was the victim. It was her dog too residing in an air-conditioned dog house in their backyard. Tammy squandered ministry funds just like her husband did. My point is that she had no Biblical right to walk out on her husband and divorce him; but because the public demonized him, so did his wife. I think she was a big hypocrite. The homosexual community reached out to Tammy during the ordeal, so she became a public spokeswomen for the homosexual agenda.
The entire story is a train-wreck. I'm not taking sides, nor am I condemning anyone. Both of the Bakkers are deceased. My point is that marriage is a commitment that is never to be broken, period. For any women to divorce her husband when his life is falling apart is evil, selfish, and of the Devil. I don't expect feminists, lesbians, and foolish women to understand anything I say, for the Bible teaches that a fool will not heed wisdom. Humans tend to categorize sins, but God says that all men are wicked sinners (James 2:10). Society demonizes people for committing certain sins, like adultery and homicide; while totally ignoring the sins of idolatry, murder by abortion, casino gambling, pornography, nudity, et cetera.
It's easy to forgive someone that you've taken vengeance on, but to forgive those who get away with their evils against you is to impossible without the love of God in you. Romans 12:19 says that vengeance belongs to God alone. Tammy Fay Bakker is no hero to anyone. She squandered ministry funds, disgraced the Lord with her shenanigans on national television, divorced her husband at the lowest point of his life, and then joined the homosexual community to find acceptance. What a sick and sorry woman!
If you can only forgive while divorcing your husband after he receives life in prison, then you deserve to be in prison with him (and God will do worse to you I assure you). People have no idea how ugly God can be, but it is always justified. Please study along in the Book of Zephaniah to learn about the darkside of God's love. Men are tired of vindictive women, which is why marriage is at an all-time low in America. You had better watch yourself, because God is watching you.
Feminism has already produced three generations of spoiled brats in America, and the upcoming generation of spoiled rebels will take lesbianism to new heights. Homosexuality is about to become mainstream in 2013 in America with Proposition 8 becoming the law of the law, legalizing same-sex marriages nationwide at a federal level. Then anti-hate-speech laws will follow, prosecuting Christians for taking a Biblical stand in public for God. Already, Homeland Security is prosecuting abortion protesters. Homeland Security Unites with Abortion Industry (pro-life Christians charged with stalking). Feminism is idolatry, placing women's rights equal with God's authority in the Scriptures. The only right that any of us have is to burn in Hell for all eternity for our sins. That includes YOU!
There is NO bigger lie today than that divorce is permissible in cases of adultery. Don't you tell me that Jesus permits you to walk our on a crying and repentant spouse who is sorry and begging your forgiveness. Don't you dare! There are NO Biblical grounds for divorce. It's perplexing to me that a professed gospel "minister" would recommend someone get a divorce, in lieu of a Bible that teaches forgiveness from cover to cover. Is divorce forgiveness? No, it is revenge. What about the sins of murder, theft, and assault? You can't show me grounds for divorce for these sins. Matthew 5:28 teaches that ALL MEN are adulterers!
Jesus plainly taught that divorce is ALWAYS the result of a sinful HARD-HEART. Apostate religious teachers can twist, pervert and corrupt God's Word in an attempt to justify the sin of divorce; BUT, the Words of Jesus Christ in Matthew 19:8 stand as testimony against them all... "Moses BECAUSE OF THE HARDNESS OF YOUR HEARTS suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so."
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