Help Meet

by David J. Stewart | December 2003 | Updated September 2016

“And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” —Genesis 2:18

Bible student       What is a “help meet” and where does that term come from? The term comes from the Bible in Genesis 2:18. The Hebrew phrase “help meet” in the Word of God simply means, “one who helps.” The Bible teaches that it is the wife's duty to HELP her husband. You may not agree with that, but it is God's plan. Many women have simply sold-out to the ungodly influences of the feminist movement and refuse to accept any such teaching. 

I overhead a woman once say, "I'm never going to get married, I'm not going to wait on any man hand and foot." Is it any coincidence that she is a career woman in her mid 30's with no husband or children? I think not! She is miserable by the way. Evil influences of such women as Gloria Brown, editor of Cosmopolitan Magazine have ruined women for over three decades. Brown pompously prides herself in having been a prostitute in the 1960's. No woman (especially Christian women) should support such a magazine in any way. It is of the Devil. There is no greater role for a woman in this world than being at her husband's side.  When Tammy Wynette first sang her most memorable song, "Stand by Your Man," the feminists went nuts! She was accused of trying to protect abusive husbands and tyrants. That was probably one of the best country songs ever produced. Every wife needs to resolve in her soul to stand by her man! If you love him you will. 

Many foolish women have DESTROYED their husbands! Divorce has sky-rocketed! Jennifer Lopez is a classic example of a rebellious wife (she's already had multiple husbands because she refuses to obey, she is also living in adultery according to the Word of God). Lopez' own grandmother has expressed disgust and shame over her granddaughters lewd and lascivious behavior. The Bible condemns Jennifer Lopez, I do not. The Holy Bible condemns all of us!

Proverbs 16:16, “How much better is it to get wisdom than gold! and to get understanding rather to be chosen than silver!”

 “Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.” —Proverb 14:1

The wise wife builds her family, she has more power over her husband than the Bible. Remember that Adam chose to side with Eve rather than God.  What kind of wife are you?

“Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives.” —1st Peter 3:1

"Conversation" in 1st Peter 3:1 means "manner of life." The life you live is your manner of life. Sarah obeyed Abraham, even called him “lord.” This is greatly admirable for any woman. Sarah's use of the word “lord” was simply her way of saying, “Hey, your the boss Abraham!” Sarah was loyal.

“Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well...” —1st Peter 3:6

 Jezebel on the other hand destroyed her husband spiritually, she was a Hillary Clinton to Israel.

“But there was none like unto Ahab, which did sell himself to work wickedness in the sight of the LORD, whom Jezebel his wife stirred up.” —1st Kings 21:25

Jezebel was a feminist, she wore the pants in the home. Ahab was henpecked for sure. Jezebel was the epitome of what every wife should NOT be. Holy women who trust in God WILL submit to their own husbands, rebels won't. Unfortunately, most women are more Hollywood than holy.

“For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands.” —1st Peter 3:5

Notice the Bible says, "their own husbands." A woman is under no obligation whatsoever to submit to ANY MAN except her husband. There is nothing in the Bible which teaches that a woman is to submit to her pastor or any other man besides her husband. Some foolish women have been brainwashed into believing that they were supposed to submit to their pastor more than their own husband, this is sinful. You obey your own husband, no one else! There are plenty of religious men out there who will take advantage of weak-minded women. You and your husband are ONE in God's eyes, don't ever forget that. Let your strength be your love and loyalty to your husband. 

“And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” —Genesis 2:18

You and your husband must protect one another. Obey your husband! By the way, too many wives submit to their mother instead of to their own husband, sinfully so. Mind your own marriage mom, let your children live! A husband and wife are to be a team, but someone's got to be in charge or else you're going to have a house divided, a two-headed monster. ...

Proverbs 31:10-31, “Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar. She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard. She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms. She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night. She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff. She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet. She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple. Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land. She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant. Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come. She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.  Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.”

Also, please consider these Scriptures...

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” —Ephesians 5:22
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.” —Colossians 3:18

The Bible teaches that a woman's place is IN THE HOME, not the factory or office. 

 “I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.” —1st Timothy 5:14

The Holy Bible, God's inspired Word, teaches that it is God's will for women to get married, have children, guide the house and not cause trouble. God is saying that a woman should work in the home. “Guiding the house” means that she is to take care of the business of the home. A family has much to be done. Children need attending to and training. Dishes need to be washed. Clothes need to be cleaned and ironed. Home-cooked meals need to be planned, gathered and prepared. Being a full-time mother is a tremendous amount of work! 

“And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” —Genesis 2:18

It is a shame that many children today are growing up on less than nutritious diets. With all the processed foods, should it be surprising that so many children are malnourished and obese? I think not! Americans have a dire lack of proper vitamins and minerals, poisons in our foods, stress, pollution, lack of bodily exercise, fluoridation of water, harmful medicines, dangerous vaccinations, toxins, cigarettes, alcohol, etc).

It is a mother's duty to learn about these things and to safeguard her home. Every mother should be an expert on nutrition. If I were a mother, I would try to become an expert (as much as possible) in all areas relevant to my family. It doesn't take a lot of money to properly feed your family. Junk food is much more expensive than real food. There is NO GREATER title or job in the world than that of being a wife and mother. Society today is totally backwards. Women who stay at home and guide the house, as God wants them to, are often labeled as being “slaves, weak or stupid.” On the contrary, they are obeying God's Word, the Holy Bible. Any woman can apply for a job and work 9 to 5, but it takes a God-fearing woman to obey 1st Timothy 5:14 and be a godly wife and mother. 

“And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” —Genesis 2:18

A mother needs to be at home with her children. A wife needs to prepare to meet her husband when he comes home tired from work. The house needs to be clean. If she is the proper kind of wife, her husband will be praised by others who notice her virtue and character (Proverb 31:23). A wife is to submit to her husband (1st Peter 3:1-5). 

The true heroes in America are it's loyal hard-working mothers and wives who keep the home-fires burning! Phooey on the feminists who condemn God-fearing mothers that stay at home to guide their homes, care for their children and love their husband. America needs a revival of motherhood!!! It is appalling to know that so many parents entrust their children to strangers at some day-care center. Children belong at home. I believe that we as Christians need to step back for a moment and take a good look at what's happening in America. The big picture is ugly. It's bad enough that mother's are being forced into the workplace due to the lack of decent paying jobs for men (or divorce), now career women aren't even having children anymore. I heard today on the news that “the morning after pill” is going to be made freely available as an over-the-counter product. First the rich elites used abortion to reduce the population under the guise of “women's rights,” now they're doing everything they can do promote birth control. There is something very wrong with this picture. 

You ladies who stay home and care for your family are to be greatly praised, thank you on behalf of America! For you militant feminazi rebels who refuse to cater to a man, listen to the Word of God...

“For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry...” —1st Samuel 15:23

I am NOT trying to be unkind, just honest. We need a revival in this nation. Husbands need to start loving their wives as God commands. Wives need to start obeying their husbands. Christian believers are all imperfect sinners, trying to follow a perfect Savior and a perfect Bible. And you husbands, your wife would be much more likely to submit if you would start to be fair and show her more respect and love. The Bible is clear, a wife is commanded to be in subjection to her own husband. I'm tired of these wimpy religious speakers who try to water-down the truth. Rebellion is as witchcraft, there are no excuses! One Of The Main Reasons Why You Don't Get Your Prayers Answered (MP3 by Dr. Jack Hyles. This is a tough sermon on slackard husbands).

“And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” —Genesis 2:18

Either your going to obey your husband or your not. If you don't, God will judge you as one who practices witchcraft.  It is a serious matter to God.  merica is only as strong as it's families.  As I type, America's families are in pathetic condition spiritually.  The divorce rate has steadily increased since 1900.  As America delves deeper into wickedness, this trend will continue.  Each and every mother and father must proclaim with Joshua...

“And if it seem evil unto you to serve the LORD, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.” —Joshua 24:15

How's your marriage doing? The only way any Christian woman is going to get married and make a relationship last for decades to learn to follow God's plan in the Holy Bible (i.e., King James Bible). The same is true of Christian men. Fellas, if you love your wife you'll put up with her (and shell put up with you)! I'll say it again, If you love your wife you'll put up with her! Again, If you love your wife you'll put up with her! Once more, If you love your wife you'll put up with her! Love is what keeps a marriage together, not the synthetic kind of love that the world sings about. 

I'm talking about God's unconditional love. The Greek word "agape" describes a love that never fails; a love that cares not for it's own, but for others; a love that endures, for better, for worse; a love that causes a man to deal with his wife according to knowledge and not emotional bitterness and hate; a love that causes a wife to obey her husband, even when she knows that he is wrong (I'm not talking about moral wrong). America is filled with feminist rebels, which have spurred the lesbian movement. Some women hate men so much that they would prefer to marry another woman and adopt children. This is reflective of their hatred for God. And likewise, many men today cannot relate to today's feminist, independently-minded, masculine, career woman. By the way, I triple-dog dare you to show me one sodomite who ever started a church and influenced a nation for God! 

It's time for America's women to repent of their rebellious ways and put some clothes back onto their bodies! It's time for America's fathers to start spending time with their children. It's time for America's work-at-home mothers to be honored and career women take a back-seat. It is pathetic how young girls are being brain-washed by the public school system to enter the workforce. No sir!  Those young girls need to be taught how to be good wives and mothers. They need to learn how to make clothes, cook, bake, dress appropriately, walk, talk, respect authority, et cetera. 

Our young boys need to learn how to be husbands and fathers. They need to be taught chivalry, ethics, hard work, morals, decency, respect for the opposite sex, manhood, et cetera. But you say, "They're supposed to learn those things at home." Ok, then why do they BY LAW have to go to school to learn their ABC's and their 123's? Is being able to read and count more important than the ability to be a good parent or spouse? No, it's not. Preparing for marriage and parenting are infinitely more important, not to be compared. I praise God for Hyles-Anderson College, which was founded in 1972. Abortion was legalized in 1973 in all 50 states. Oh, how we need preachers today who spend time with God in prayer. ...

“I would rather teach one man to pray, than ten men to preach; for one man who has
learned to pray, can accomplish more for Christ than ten men that can preach.” —Pastor R. A. Torrey

To my knowledge, Hyles-Anderson College is the ONLY Bible college that offers a course in “Marriage and Motherhood” (under “Associate of Science” degree). Amen! What an awesome thing to learn! The average person has never read one book, nor prepared for even 5 minutes to become a parent!!! Well why not?

Why do children HAVE to legally attend public schools to be INDOCTRINATED that they evolved from a monkey? Those poor kids are coming home overburdened with ridiculous amounts of homework, and many are still failing school. What's going on in America? I'll tell you, the government is trying to dumb down the kids in preparation for the New World Order. Dumb kids aren't a threat to the establishment. Educate your kids folks! Don't rely upon the ungodly school system. It's our responsibility to train up our children for motherhood and fatherhood. 

You'd think in a nation where the divorce rate is over 50% in some areas, that the government would panic and do something. We'll, it's not going to happen because the government doesn't care about you, they're just puppets of the globalist elite. The U.S. government has become an unstoppable monster, out of control, hi-jacked by some very evil, greedy and selfish rich people. You will NOT see a U.S. President in office who is not a member of the CFR (Council on Foreign Relations). Prove me wrong! The CFR couldn't care less about American patriotism, the Holy Bible, the Constitution, the Bill of Rights or the American worker. As the CFR gains more control, the elements I just mentioned will be diminished until destroyed. The warfare/welfare state will continue until our nation is completely bankrupt! Stand up! Fight! Tell everyone you know what is going on! Go Here to learn more at

Ever heard Smokey the Bear say, "Only you can prevent forest fires!" Well, now Smokey's telling you that, "ONLY YOU can prevent your child from going to the Devil!" And even if you try, leading them in the correct paths that God wants you to lead them, they still have a free will to make their own choices. A good upbringing does not guarantee that adult children will honor their parents. Oftentimes they do not! "ONLY YOU can prevent your marriage from falling apart!"  Read The Marriage Mess by Jack Chick. "ONLY YOU can prevent sin entering into your own home." YOU mom and dad must teach your children how to prepare for the life ahead. We are so foolish in America. Think about how great our nation would be if every parent spent quality time investing in their children, and if there were no Communist public schools, and if all children were taught faith in the King James Bible? We'll, one day it will be that way, when Jesus Christ rules over the earth. And you can be a part of it, just by receiving Christ's sacrifice on the cross as payment for your sins, and believing by faith that Jesus bodily resurrected from the dead three days later. This is “the Gospel” (1st Corinthians 15:1-4).

I've said all this simply to say that everything rises and falls on motherhood. If your going to have a successful marriage, then you are going to have to work at it. A marriage is two people making a life for each other. Your husband needs your help ladies. The Devil wants to destroy your husband (through you if you foolishly let him). Even 1st Peter 3:1 teaches that a woman can have more power over her husband than the Word of God can. You have a lot of influence and power as a woman and mother. Look how Adam chose Eve over God. What are your children going to become someday? Are you HELPING your husband, or causing him nothing but grief and arguing with him all the time? Are you as rottenness in his bones, because he is ashamed to call you his wife? Your children will someday be what you're making them now. Your marriage will be what you are making it now. All it takes to fall in love is a PULSE, but to stay married requires a PLAN! It takes time and deliberate EFFORT to build a successful marriage that will weather the storms of life when they come (many marriages aren't making it). I just read yesterday that actors' Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt are divorcing. Surprise, surprise! Another Hollywood divorce! Could it be because we are a nation which "trusts in goods" more than we "trust in God?" 

“And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” —Genesis 2:18

I believe in big families (Genesis 1:28). Do you really think that God's planet can become overpopulated? The global elite seem to think so (Luke 12:30), but we are NOT to worry about such things (Luke 12:29). Children are a gift from God! America's mothers need to have many children and raise them up for the Lord Jesus Christ. This all begins with a godly home! No home will ever be a home if mom and dad refuse to accept their proper roles in the Marriage. A happy marriage equals happy children, which equals a happy home. A husband must be understanding, not a tyrant, committed to God, an honest man, fair to his wife and kids, etc. A woman must be submissive to her husband and obedient, but the husband must allow her to express her opinions and he must be fair about the decisions he makes. Many women refuse to obey their husbands (and sinfully so) because their husbands aren't fair or nice (Ephesians 4:30). A marriage must be a "team effort." It must NOT be a 50/50 deal, but rather 100%. 

When you recited your marriage vows, you said: "for better or for WORSE, until death do us part." If you only obey your husband in the "for better" times, then you are a bad wife. If you husbands only love your wife in the "for better" years, then you are a bad husband. A husband is to love regardless; a wife is to submit regardless! Surely, for a man to expect his wife to obey him if he's a tyrant is unfair. Some men are monsters at home. Every real man gets angry, but he must know what LINES he cannot cross when angry. The same is true of women. Fight fair! Many men are angered because of a lazy wife who won't clean the house (or messes it up herself). I could write a giant book of hypothetical situations,. The bottom line is that we need a revival in America of how why treat each other at home (Ephesians 4:30,31). The Devil can only defeat us if we allow him to! 

And I'll tell you, there are tens-of-thousands of scum of the earth judges and lawyers across America just itching to break apart your marriage and family, who will bilk you for all they can financially. They are ungodly reprobates! Before you file for divorce and destroy your marriage, family and estate, why not first try to do things GOD'S WAY from the Holy Bible...

The Miracle Of Mutual Submission (an awesome MP3 by Pastor Jack Hyles)

Marriage MP3 Bible Study, Dr. Hyles: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22

Many marriages don't last because they were extremely unstable to begin with. Do NOT marry an unbeliever (2nd Corinthians 6:14), or you will have father-in-law troubles with the Devil. Do you understand what I just said? If you are saved, God is your heavenly Father. However, if you are unsaved, the Devil is your spiritual father. So if a born-again Christian marries an unbeliever, you will literally have Satan as your spiritual father-in-law. Don't do it friend!

Make a mutual commitment with your spouse to guard your marriage against satanic attacks of the Devil and his minions. When you refuse to be a HELP MEET to your husband and submit to his authority, you are allowing the Devil to gain entrance into your marriage. Remember, if you give the Devil an inch, he'll take a foot, and become a ruler! Hopefully, you are not married to a husband who is an abusive tyrant (Malachi 2:14). If you are, I am so sorry for your dire situation. If you are being abused, then you should leave. If your husband gets drunk and beats you, God doesn't expect you to submit to physical abuse. Albeit, what many wives allege as “abuse” is ridiculous. Your husband tracking your whereabouts is his God-given right, and that is not abuse. We've got a feminist-agenda-driven, retarded, court system in America, that totally rejects any form of wifely submission. What do you expect from a satanic court system that legalizes same-sex perversion, public nudity, and the murdering of human life in the womb? Woe unto America! I'm so glad that God is always on His throne, and He will have the ultimate say in all matters (Ecclesiastes 12:13-14).

Ladies, is it worth all the fighting and arguing (Ephesians 4:30-31)? Wives ought to obey their husband. The same can be said about the husbands being fair, honest, respectful and loving toward their wives. Is your marriage a house divided? Is it a two-headed monster? Anything with two heads is a monstrosity! And you husbands, be sure to read Mutual Submission (you ladies will be surprised at what the Bible teaches). Here's the MP3 version if you'd like to hear this wonderful truth taught by Dr. Jack Hyles (1926-2001): The Miracle Of Mutual Submission. We all need to get right with God in America!!! THE ROOT OF THE MATTER (an awesome MP3 sermon by Dr. Jack Hyles - The world's greatest preacher!) And here's one final precious Scripture for you my friend, whoever you may be...

“Her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life ... Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.” —Proverbs 31:10-12 and verse 28. END

"You can name anything you want to name, but I am opposed to anything in the world that de-emphasizes the line of difference between the sexes.  I believe that ladies ought to be feminine and sweet and lovely and charming.  I believe men ought to be strong and masculine and decisive.  I’m opposed to anything that makes a man and a woman act alike, look alike, dress alike, or talk alike." Pastor Jack Hyles (a great quote taken from Dr. Hyle's sermon, Unisex); Listen to MP3 sermon now.

 “Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.” —Proverbs 14:1

The wise wife builds her family, she has more power over her husband than the Bible. 

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