Virtue Or Rubies?

by David J. Stewart | June 2011 | Updated February 2016

Proverb 31:10, “Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.”

The Hebrew word for “rubies” (paniyn paniy) in Proverb 31:10 includes costly pearls as well. According to experts in London, pearls are in some classes worth more value than diamonds...

Pearls Now Most Precious Gems After Rubies and Emeralds

February 12, 1911

LONDON, Feb. 4. — According to London experts the continued rise in the price of pearls is tending to make, and in some classes has already made, them more valuable than diamonds. One West End dealer in precious stones said this advance in price was due to the fact that there had been over-fishing at one time and that now the demand for pearls was greater than the supply. ...


The Bible teaches in Proverb 31:10 that a virtuous woman is FAR MORE VALUABLE than rubies or pearls! She is worth more than diamonds!

Jesus said in Matthew 6:24, “No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon.” The word “mammon” comes directly from the Greek word mammonas, meaning “wealth.” The Bible teaches that wealth and serving God are diametrically opposed to each other. You CANNOT serve them both!

Bible studentIt is tragic that hordes of women these days are choosing pearls instead of virtue as their goal in life. God says that a virtuous woman is FAR ABOVE RUBIES AND PEARLS in price. Literally, such a woman cannot be purchased, for she has no price at which she is willing to sell her soul.

So many women have sold their soul for fame and fortune—removing their clothes, sleeping their way up the corporate ladder, going along to get along, esteeming favor and beauty above all else. But the Bible says in Luke 16:15, “...for that which is highly esteemed among men is abomination in the sight of God.” This virtuous woman FEARS GOD above all else. She knows that favor is deceitful, and that bodily beauty is vain. Proverb 31:30, “Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.”

The word “virtuous” in Proverb 31:10 means much more than what most people think it means. The Hebrew word is chayil and means “an army, wealth, virtue, valor, strength.” The word attests to the spiritual, emotional, and physical strength of a woman. This is God's plan for every woman, to be strong and praised by many for her Biblical virtuousness.

Just as Satan told Eve that God lied to her in the Garden of Eden, so has Satan maliciously lied to women for decades through feminist indoctrination; telling them that God's plan is for women to be weak, slaves at home, burdened down with children, and chained to an oven. Feminism has portrayed God and the Bible as being male-Chauvinist, to the point where even the Bible is being corrupted to cater to the insanity of this wicked generation. Ironically, women who boast that they'd never wait on any man hand-and-foot, wait on their employer in the workplace just the same! Instead of obeying a husband, they have to obey an employer! Feminism is a lie! More Women Are Rejecting Feminism!

Feminism has indoctrinated foolish women to steal, kill, and destroy just as the Devil does (John 10:10). Feminism convinces women that they are being oppressed, just as the Devil convinced Eve that she was being deprived of true LIBERATION. Satan promised Eve grandeur visions of becoming as gods (Genesis 3:5). Likewise, feminists sinfully train other foolish women about the benefits and advantages of birth control, sterilization, abortion, relationships rather than marriage, divorce, freezing eggs, and holding off on having children to pursue a career instead. It's all of the Devil.

The common consensus these days is that it's ok to have sex using a condom, and then later the condom comes off if it's true love. Of course, you'll probably have slept with more people than you can remember by that time, and consequently marriage won't have the sacred meaning and holy matrimony that God intended. Having sex with a person establishes a permanent soul-connection. Thus, it is extremely detrimental spiritually to fornicate. Proverb 6:32, “But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.” Adultery is a horrible sin in God's eyes, with lasting consequences.

Biblically you should never have sex with someone unless you are married to them. To do so is a sin. God will judge adulterers and whoremongers. Hebrews 13:4,  “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” Public school children are taught all about sex, handed free condoms by the school, and never a word is mentioned about the virtues of courtship and marriage. And now President Obama has brought Planned Herodhood into all the schools for kids to have abortions without informing the parents. Just take the RU-486 pill. Marriage is like a fireplace. Fire is the sex. The fire is enjoyable and pretty, but if the fire gets outside of the fireplace, it'll burn your home down! Likewise, sex outside of a marriage commitment will burn your life down!!!

Proverbs 31:30, “Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.”

Proverbs 31:11-31 describes in detail the kind of woman that money cannot buy...

Let's briefly describe this cherished and much sought after woman, who is on the endangered species list nowadays. First, she is a born-again Christian who fears God (Verse 30). She sews and makes her own clothing (Verses 13,21-22). Even though she could buy clothing cheap at Wal-Mart, she desires to learn to sew for the sake of sewing, and the joy of knowing that she made the clothing that her family is wearing. She cares. She is not idle nor lazy (verse 27). She is wise, choosing her words carefully, and her character is rooted in the law of always being kind (Verse 26).

She is able to make sound financial decisions (Verse 16) and her husbands trusts her judgment (Verse 11). She purchased a field and grew a garden (Verse 16) to feed not only her family, but the needy (Verse 20). She cooks recipes using a variety of spices and foods (verse 14). She works hard, by day and night (Verse 18), looking well on the ways of her family (Verse 27). This means more than just meeting their needs. She is concerning about their diet, growing her own garden (Verse 16). She is a very hard worker (Verse 17). She doesn't loaf, doesn't lay around all day watching soap operas and TV. She doesn't spend much time talking on the phone.

She lives with a purpose, and that purpose is to be a help meet (Genesis 2:18) to her husband, and to train up her children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. She realizes that children are gifts from the Lord, entrusted to her to teach them to grow up to do likewise and fear God all the days of their life. She teaches Bible stories and truths to her children daily.

Her children and husband praise her for being a caring and loving wife and mother (Verse 28). She doesn't think about herself, putting others first; knowing that hanging-in-there and doing the honorable thing will eventually be rewarded by God (Verse 25). Her husband is recognized in the local community because of the excellent Christian testimony of the wife (verse 23). She doesn't need to brag because her good works speak for them self (verse 31).

She is not the average woman—she fears God, has wisdom, ambitions, goals, hobbies, interests; and it all centers around building up her home, family, and helping the needy. She rises up before her family so she can prepare a good meal for them, and she considers others (Verse 15). She loves Jesus Christ more than her children or husband, and that compels her never to quit her marriage nor neglect her responsibilities as a wife and mother (Luke 14:26). She desires intensely to fully use her time and resources to accomplish much good, knowing that life is short.

She never does harm to her husband, but does good the Bible says... all the days of her life (Verse 12). Most women fail utterly here. She never gossips about him on the phone to a friend. She never causes him great financial loss by dragging him into divorce court. She never yells publicly at her husband for all the neighbors to hear, bringing reproach upon the family. A book could be written on Verse 12 by itself. A virtuous wife would never even think of hurting her husband in any way. She doesn't lie to him nor about him. She doesn't hide his mail, deal deceptively, slack off in all her duties, and drag acquaintances into their marriage disputes. No husband should have to beg and plead, to the point of getting angry, because his wife is lazy, lackadaisical, a loafer, a liar, and refuses to fulfill her responsibilities as a wife and a mother.

The Word of God teaches that a man who will NOT obey the Bible, WILL listen to his wife if she is a virtuous woman (the kind of woman that I just shared with you). Get mad at God if you don't believe that, because He said it. 1st Peter 3:1, “Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives.” The word “conversation” in 1st Peter 3:1 refers to her manner of life, that is, her behaviour.

The idea is not to follow Proverb 31 exactly, but you ought to want to. Your goal ultimately should be to PLEASE THE LORD. Revelation 4:11, “Thou art worthy, O Lord, to receive glory and honour and power: for thou hast created all things, and for thy pleasure they are and were created.” A Proverbs 31 woman is a caring woman who continually strives and works hard to build up and strengthen her family and marriage. Remember, the word “virtuous” means “an army, wealth, virtue, valor, strength.” She is a strong woman, having integrity and resolve to accomplish her duties. She places her faith in God. She is a constant encouragement to her husband. God pity the foolish woman who is a constant burden and grief to her husband. God pity the woman who grieves her husband by her laziness, lack of honesty, carelessness, emotional instability and idleness. A lazy woman is an ungodly woman!

The Bible teaches that nothing is to be compared to desiring and obtaining WISDOM. Proverb 3:13-15, “Happy is the man that findeth wisdom, and the man that getteth understanding. For the merchandise of it is better than the merchandise of silver, and the gain thereof than fine gold. She is more precious than rubies: and all the things thou canst desire are not to be compared unto her.” Most people in a psychiatrist's office have a problem with God instead. They lack God's wisdom. They are rebellious against the plain teachings of the Scriptures. People need God's wisdom, not man's (download MP3 sermon).

A wise person admits that they don't know everything and need God's wisdom. I sure do, day and night!!! I want God's wisdom, and I pray for it regularly as commanded in James 1:5, “If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.” Men and women alike need God's wisdom. A wise woman obeys her husband. I recommend that women at home listen to lots of Bible-preaching while doing your housework, to help you think Biblically. We all needs lots of Bible-searching and Bible-preaching to keep us growing in the Lord. Good preaching will be solidly based upon the King James Bible. Avoid listening to deadbeat radio preachers that say a lot without really saying anything, and who always beg for donations. You don't need that kind of garbage in your daily life!

The Bible way is MOTHERHOOD...

1st Timothy 5:14-15, “I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully. For some are already turned aside after Satan.”

The Bible calls anything else being “turned aside after Satan.” It's never God's perfect will to go through 3 or 4 spouses until you get it right. Mr. Right is the one you marry. American kids grow up learning to be good quitters; whereas they used to be taught to be sore losers. We ought to be sore and upset about losing. Remember, if you come in 2nd place, you're the first loser! Kids have been taught to be good quitters.

I was sad when I read that Al Gore and his wife were divorcing after 40-years of marriage. The Washington Post white washed the divorce, speaking gleefully about the divorce in a positive light. I'm not sorry to say that I just cannot agree. Divorce is supposed to be for life. Certainly, we don't know all the details, and it's none of anybody's business. My disgust is aimed at the newspaper journalist's sinful view of marriage, claiming that the Gore's divorce is a lesson to us all that marriage is “sacred, not eternal.” What ever happened to “'til death do us part”? The journalist speaks about marriage as if it's a mere business partnership that is scheduled to be dissolved after so many years.

I'm not condemning anyone, I'm just saying that Americans are being foolishly taught from grade school to the newsmedia to quit, quit, quit. The Bible teaches that God never quits on us, never leaves nor forsakes us (Hebrews 13:5). Jesus Christ is our example to follow. He could have dropped that cross and said, “forget this!,” but Jesus kept going! If you desire to do wrong, then you'll find every excuse in the world to do so; but God cannot be fooled.

Feminist women love to throw hypothetical situations at the righteous. They ask what should a wife do if the husband demands for her to get drunk, or something along those lines? I've learned in life that people who deal in moral hypotheticals are losers, rebels against God, always looking for a way to break God's rules, always looking for the easy way out, always grasping for straws to do things their own way instead of obeying the Words of God. GET RIGHT WITH GOD!!! The Bible doesn't dabble in hypothetical situations like the wicked do; but rather, the Bible gives us ABSOLUTES from an unchanging holy God (Malachi 3:6; Hebrews 13:8).

Every husband ought to be an Ephesians 5 man, gently leading in love, even as Christ loved the Church. Husbands are expected by God to lead their home; but in actuality it is the wife who leads the home according to 1st Peter 3:1. The man only thinks he's in charge, right ladies? The man ALWAYS has the last words... “yes dear!”

Women are still throwing the coat-hanger routine at pro-life preachers. There's never been even one medically-recorded incident involving a pregnant woman in some back alley. That's just a bunch of wicked people using EXTREMES to justify the norm.

By the way, I don't know if you've ever noticed; but the newsmedia plays a dirty trick on people's minds by always referring to pro-life people as “anti-abortionists,” which denotes a negative connotation; whereas they call murdering abortionists “pro-choice.” Why don't we just call them what they are... Anti-life! Anti-God! Anti-Bible! Anti-family!

The Proverbs 31 woman doesn't just happen by accident. It takes FAITH IN GOD, a commitment, determination, hard work, diligence, resolve, and desiring to learn the art of homemaking (and it is a dying art). Most career women today couldn't even begin to relate to what God wants them to be. If you are pursuing advanced education and a career, then you have major obstacles in your life to becoming a Proverbs 31 woman (or even a mother for that matter). The choice between MOTHERHOOD and a CAREER must be made. You simply cannot have both. It rarely works out, and if it does, at best your children are latchkey kids, after being raised by their surrogate daycare center parents (who don't love and care about them like you do). It's just a 9-to-5 job for them.

The Bible says you cannot serve God and mammon (wealth). It's one or the other. The Bible says that you'll HATE the one you didn't choose. Career women usually HATE homemakers, hate the Bible, hate authoritative husbands and fathers, and have delusions of someday becoming a mother when their frozen eggs are thawed at 45 years of age. Yeah, good luck with that! Honestly, if that's you, I feel so sorry for you because the Devil saw you coming. God didn't intend for women to have children in their 40's or 50's with implanted thawed out eggs stored from 2 decades earlier. It's definitely weird stuff. Satan influences people to do some weird stuff.

Feminism Has Women Freezing Eggs (endlessly searching for the non-existent Mr. Right)

The greatest need in America today is for children to be raised up in a Proverb 31 home. Proverb 22:6, “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” America is weak today because its families are weak. A happy home can only come from a happy marriage. Most women couldn't care less about fearing God, wisdom, learning to cook, sewing, cleaning, carefully guarding her words and associations. Jesus said in Luke 16:15, “...for that which is highly esteemed among men is abomination in the sight of God.” God esteems motherhood as something important and a worthy undertaking.

There's nothing in the Bible about a virtuous women pursuing a career, nor providing for the husband. Notice that the Bible never mentions in Proverbs 31 anything about a wife going to work, nor attending a university, nor pursuing a career field. It matters not how successful you may have been in this world when you stand before God. All that will matter in eternity is whether or not you pleased the Lord, which is the very reason why we were created (Revelation 4:11).

Feminism, fornication, abortion, daycare centers to raise your child, divorce, and lesbianism do not please God. The Bible is NOT just another Book. It is God's holy Words, and our very life as Christians by which we were born-again (1st Peter 1:23).

“She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.” —Proverb 31:12

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