A Prudent Wife

By David J. Stewart

Proverb:19:14, "House and riches are the inheritance of fathers and a prudent wife is from the LORD."

This is such a powerful Scripture for Christian women. I hope you'll listen to me ladies. Please pray and ask God to speak to your heart as I speak to your mind. I truly want to help you.

As the author of Jesus-is-Savior.com, I get criticized a lot by feminist women because I teach that divorce is always wrong (Matthew 19:8), and because I teach that women should be understanding toward their husbands, obedient, submissive, forgiving and most of all... loyal. Many Christian women have been infected with feminism and don't even realize it. Feminism is any thought which causes you to consider harming your husband, filing for divorce, or getting even with him.

The following Scripture teaches mind discipline and is the key to the Christian life. 2nd Corinthians 10:5, “Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ.” Whenever we have a sinful thought of hate, lust or revenge, we should immediately arrest that thought and bring it into obedience to the Lord Jesus Christ as taught in the Bible. You can think right if you CHOOSE to! God will help you! This is why we need to SEARCH THE SCRIPTURES as Jesus commanded in John 5:39. Psalm 119:11, “Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee.” David memorized the Scriptures to help him live right (and David only had the first several books of the Bible). We are blessed to have the complete Scriptures! The Bible is so precious!!!

If every Christian wife would do this instead of listening to Suzy-stupid-mouth, Debbie-dingbat and to idiots on the hellivision (like the bisexuals and same-sex promoters on THE VIEW)... no wife would ever abandon ship and divorce! You need to listen to God and stop being a witch.

The Meaning of a “Prudent” Wife

In Proverbs 19:14, the word “prudent” in the Old Testament Hebrew is sakal, which means...

"A primitive root; to be (causeatively make or act) circumspect and hence intelligent"

The word “circumspect” means “heedful of potential consequences.” Prudent women are now on the endangered species list. The Bible says that a prudent wife (who walks with God) uses her brain and considers the consequences of her actions. The Bible says that a prudent wife comes from God (Proverbs 19:14). It means that God has done a work in her heart, because she's a born-again Christian and loves the Lord. A prudent wife is careful and sensible; marked by sound judgment. Few women today are virtuous and filled with the Spirit of God, prudent and having discretion.

The best wife is a woman who loves God more than her husband. Notice that I didn't say religion. A woman who leaves her husband for her church is not right with God. Your husband comes first, not a church. Marriages are made in Heaven (Mark 10:9). The first institution that God ever ordained was the marriage. Before there was a family with children, or a church, their was a marriage between Adam and Eve. A prudent wife loves Jesus Christ, which causes her to have unconditional love for her imperfect husband. She realizes that she is a big sinner (just as everybody else, James 2:10) and has no right to divorce her husband because of his sins. You are a big sinner too! I'm sick of feminists demonizing husbands who commit adultery, acting like wives are the victims, so innocent, so perfect, so

So many women today are fools, acting on impulse instead of considering then consequences of their words and actions. They get upset at their husband and in an emotional fury dial 9-11 to call the police. I am shocked by some of the stories I read about. When you call the police, you are opening a Pandora's Box! You are stirring the pot and you never know what may come our of it! When you dial 9-11 on anyone, you are risking destroying their life. I have seen so many lives destroyed, spending years trying to get out an unfair and corrupt court system, all because some jerk called the police on them in anger. Many judges today are lesbians, homosexuals and transvestites. President Barack Obama has appointed over 200 LGBT since he became President. As the wicked are promoted over the righteous, America is going to get much worse. The wickedness is just beginning.

Your Marriage Supercedes Church

Ephesians 5:22, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.”

A wife is to submit to her husband as unto Jesus Christ. This blows feminism sky-high! Sadly, feminism has infected our churches today and the divorce rate amongst Christians equals that of the heathen world. It's because Christians own as many televisions as the heathen world. It's what you do at home that determines who you are, not what you do one day a week at church. A man is defined by what he does! Life is a series of decisions and we are what we do.

There are many women who, while having marriage problems, divorce their husband because the hypocrites at church condemn him for not attending church. This happens frequently. A wife attends a church regularly, but her husband stays home. Over time they grow apart. If a husband and wife aren't best friends in the world after 10 years of marriage, something is VERY wrong.

Over time the wife becomes closer to her pastor and friends at church than her husband, so she divorces him when they have rough times. It is sinful. A wife should stay home with her husband. Call me what you will, I believe that God intended for a husband and wife to be together... best friends, pals, lovers and companions. I've known numerous women to attend church, but the husband wouldn't, and it led to a divorce because of unbiblical teachings from the pulpit. It's a bad situation. Some pastors are really arrogant and become big-shots in their own eyes (cloaked with a falsehood of expressed humility). Again, a man is defined by what he does.

You'd be surprised how many errant pastors teach that a wife should divorce a husband who won't attend church. That's a doctrine of devils. Many Christian missionaries around the world have no church to attend, because they ARE THE CHURCH. How does a wife and husband stay spiritual? They search the Scriptures, pray and listen to preaching! I am unalterably opposed to the idea that a wife will backslide if she stays home with her husband instead of going to church. It is a dangerous thing to rely upon church to keep one's self spiritual. Now I do believe that one of the purposes of church is to EDIFY (build up) the saints. Christians need fellowship with other Christians. I am not justifying skipping out on church. What I am saying is that one's marriage is a higher priority than church. If you need to go to church to stay spiritual, then you don't know how to walk with God and likely don't even know what it means to be spiritual.

Joining a social club and partaking of church activities is not spirituality. America is filled with apostates who are faithful to church. They never take a stand for anything outside of the church, never win any souls to Christ outside the church, and their Christianity is non-detectable outside the church. Please read, What's behind The Wall?

I know a woman who worked as a secretary for her pastor for decades. Her layman husband was a manager of a car dealership. Everything went fine for over 25 years. The husband was a deacon in the church and a faithful member. Sadly, the pastor and husband had a falling out 25 years later. The wife sided with her pastor and divorce her husband. That woman is in BIG TROUBLE with God. I don't care how great your pastor may be... you didn't marry him and he's NOT YOUR HUSBAND. I get angry just thinking about this. And that pastor wasn't right with God for allowing the woman to continue working for him after filing for divorce. You don't divorce... no matter what! I am sick and tired of Christians following the wicked world, filing for divorce. I don't expect immature and worldly believers to understand. We are living in a woeful generation of hypocrites who cannot grasp the unconditional love of God.

I know a lot of people will roast me for teaching this, but I am 100% for marital LOYALTY. By the way, Pastor Curtis Hutson (Dr. John R. Rice's successor) taught the same thing. Here are the dear words of a great man of God, Dr. Curtis Hutson...

You are not responsible for how your husband plays his role, but you are responsible for how well you play your role. You are to show the world the relationship of the church of Christ, and your part is to make the church look best you can. It is the husband's part to make Christ look as good to the world as he can by playing the part of Christ.

You say, "What if he doesn't try very hard? What if he messes up? What if he gives me a tough time? You mean I still have to play my role?" Yes.

The Holy Spirit says, "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ. so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing."

She says, "In every thing?"
   "Yes, every thing."

I made a mistake as a young pastor that I corrected later. I told a lady, when her husband told her not to go to church, "You just tell him you are going to church anyway. You are going to live for God." I gave her unscriptural advice. You are to be to your husband what the church is to Christ—submissive, obedient. (emphasis added)

It is like buttoning up a shirt—if you get one button right, you get the rest right. If you get your role right and keep it right, no matter how much pressure comes—and you can believe there is going to be pressure--it will work out right. A preacher once said, "Do good and it will be good."

Did you know the whole life is pressure? You are like a vessel on a potter's wheel. God is forming your life, and He makes you form the pressures that come to your life. When you say, "I do," and the curtain goes up, it is like getting inside a pressure cooker...

Submission is a right attitude, recognizing that the husband is the head. That doesn't mean the wife can't make suggestions--that she can't tell him what she wants. But the husband is to lead the home, and he is make the final decision.

Someone says, "Now, wait a minute. I have said, 'I do,' The drama is on. I know my role. Now, what is my husband's role?"

Well, if he were here, I would tell him. I might say that his script is a little longer than yours, a little more detailed. But there is no need to talk about him; he is not here. Your role is to be submissive. Look at Titus 2. Your role is to love your husband. Your role is to be discrete, chaste, keepers at home. Did you know a woman's home is her career? It should be...

I must confess I have not been as much like Christ as I wanted to be. I must confess I haven't tried very hard at times. It is easy to forget your role. When your husband asks you to do something, it is easy to say, "Do it yourself. I am not your slave." Remember, you are not playing the role of the church when you do that.

SOURCE (Chapter 3 of Dr. Curtis Hutson's excellent book, The Woman's Role).

I don't think much more needs to be said... Pastor Hutson is 100% Biblically correct.

Wicked Feminists are Hateful, Unforgiving, and Hypocritical

It's been in the news in December of 2011 that Maria Shriver is considering divorce from Arnold Schwarzenegger. Maria is allegedly angry over discovery that Arnold fathered a child with their housekeeper. All the feminists are calling him a bum and telling her to divorce, divorce, divorce. Arnold and Maria have four children from their 25 years of marriage. Arnold has said he's sorry, he's sending her many gifts and doesn't want a divorce; yet self-righteous hypocritical feminists are telling her to refuse to forgive or reconcile. Do you know why? It's because feminists absolutely hate long-term marriages. They love to see a 25 year marriage destroyed.

Feminists are the vermin of society, rats living in the sewer of immorality. Feminists have been trained to become intolerant of less than perfect husbands. Whereas the Bible teaches understanding, love and forgiveness; feminism indoctrinates women to hurt their husbands in retaliation, make him pay, don't take him back, move on to someone who is a better person. What a bunch of evil brats!!! Women's rights have destroyed America!

Romans 6:23 says that the wages of sin is death! This is physical death and a second death in Hell (Revelation 21:8). Thankfully, we can escape the second death through the shed blood of Jesus Christ (Romans 5:9). The wages of not waking up is death! The wages of the New World Order is death! We are living in a wicked world (1st John 5:19). Oh, how the world needs Jesus Christ! By design the globalists have dumbed-us-down. Everything from the mainstream media these days is anti-America, anti-family, anti-liberty and anti-gun. The globalists have stolen our birthright. Most people today don't see the threat facing America because they haven't been taught. I encourage Christians to study the history of Communism, fascism and how societies came to ruin. America today is exactly like Rome before it fell apart.

There's an old country song that goes, “she's not cheating, she's just getting even.” That is heathendom and total wickedness. Two wrongs never make a right—it brings God's judgment. A proper Christian spirit does not seek revenge.

Many women today go to some psychiatrist that doesn't believe the Bible. There are some people, some, who do need a psychiatrist. I believe that. Some people are truly afflicted and need drug treatment, which only a psychiatrist is licensed to give them. Albeit, if you are depressed it may be because you're not obeying God and are looking for another way. Proverbs 3:5-6 tells us to acknowledge God in all our ways, which simply means to seek Biblical input in every decision that we make. What does God say about the matter? What Scriptural principles could be applied to this situation?

Albeit, I personally believe that 95% of all people going to psychiatrists only do so because they refuse to obey God. God's wisdom is rare these days, even in our churches. Most people have religion, but they don't truly have the Spirit of God in them. There are 84,262 International Churches of Christ that all teach Baptismal Regeneration (the lie that a person must be water baptized in order to get to Heaven). Biblically, you go to heaven because you're sins are washed away by the blood of jesus Christ (1st Peter 1:18,19 - King James Bible).

A Prudent Wife is from the Lord

A PRUDENT wife is a woman who considers the consequences of her actions BEFORE she does something. She is very considerate and careful. A fool dials 911 in her anger. An idiot signs for divorce without considering all the damage and lifetime consequences of her actions. Divorce ought NEVER be an option. You loved your man enough to marry him. You said, I DO. Now you are angry and want to say I DON'T.

What does the Bible teach? I'll tell you exactly what the Bible teaches. 1st Corinthians 7:10 says for a wife NOT TO DEPART. But if you do depart, you are commanded to stay single the rest of your life so long as your husband liveth. If you remarry (or have sex with a man other than your husband) God will hold you accountable for the horrible sin of adultery (Matthew 5:32). So many women hypocritical file for divorce, shoving her husband's sins down his throat; but then she goes out and remarries, committing the sin of adultery without thinking twice. It is hypocrisy and wickedness!!!

Oh ladies, think before you do! Think! When you dial 911, you are risking losing your children. CPS is insane these days. The laws are being made by wicked heathens who despise the family, love tyranny and have no fear of God before their eyes (Romans 3:18). Beware of friends ladies, they'll turn you again God! It was the serpent who led Eve astray. I hear fools on TV commenting on celebrity marriages. It's always the same thing... divorce, divorce, divorce! Don't take him back! Don't give him a second chance! That is all heathendom and of the Devil.

You'd better thank God that He took you back the day you got saved. Hebrews 13:5 promises that God will NEVER leave nor forsake us. Amen! No matter how deep you may choose to go into sin, God is still by your side... brokenhearted, but still abiding faithful. 2nd Timothy 2:13, “If we believe not, yet he abideth faithful: he cannot deny himself.” God abideth faithful, always willing to forgive, waiting patiently for all men to repent (2nd Peter 3:9).

Christ is our divine example to follow ladies. If you want to exemplify Jesus in your life, then you ought to express unconditional love of God toward an imperfect husband. You stand by your man! Tammy Wynette had it right when she sang the famous song, STAND BY YOUR MAN (and the feminists hated her for singing that song).

Proverb 24:16, “For a just man falleth seven times, and riseth up again: but the wicked shall fall into mischief.” I don't care who you marry, he will commit sin at some point. he will mess up, some men more than others. You may think that your husband is much worse than other men, but you don't know what goes on in the secret lives of anyone. All have sinned (Romans 3:23, Ecclesiastes 7:20). Even great preachers are dirty sinners at heart. None of us are the example for everyone else to follow. Jesus Christ is the supreme example for every Christian to follow, for only Jesus is without sin, the spotless Lamb of God.

We are Living in a Wicked Generation of Feminist Rebels

Yesterday's bratty generation of Madonna, Melissa Etheridge and Cyndi Lauper fans are today's rebels, divorcees and feminist trash. All three of those women are lesbians and spokeswomen for the LGBT community. Hell will be hot. The Bible plainly teaches that homosexuals won't be allowed into Heaven (1st Corinthians 6:9-10). Does this mean that a homosexual cannot be saved?

There is MUCH debate, confusion and controversy over this matter of sin and salvation. The truth is that the Bible says sin hinders people from coming to Christ for salvation. Gays won't tolerate an Independent Fundamental Baptist preacher like me, who preaches the Word of God without apology nor compromise against wickedness! The problem is not that gays cannot come to Christ to be saved; but rather, that they WON'T come to Christ to be saved. This is Scriptural (John 3:20; John 5:40). God will save anybody who acknowledges their guilt of sin and comes for forgiveness by way of the name of Jesus Christ, the Lamb of God (John 20:31; Romans 4:5). If a homosexual receives Christ's payment for his or her sins, then they are saved. God will deal with their sins as they grow in the Lord (1st Peter 2:2; Romans 3:31).

A changed life is the FRUIT of genuine repentance; and NOT a part of the ROOT of saving-faith. All I hear from gays today is that they're not doing anything wrong, that homosexuality isn't a sin, that God made them queer, and that Christians are filled with hate for quoting Scriptures against homosexuality. It is these wicked people who are NOT saved. I know beyond any shadow of a doubt that such gays are NOT saved, because they are attempting to justify their sins. Every genuine Christian still has personal sins to contend with, but at least they admit that they are a sinner. Those who boast of their wickedness and attempt to justify sin do not have Christ's Spirit in them at all. This is the difference. Biblical repentance is not stopping harmful activities in your life; but rather, admitting that you are a sinner in need of the Savior, Christ Jesus; by Whom we are saved through faith in His death, burial, and resurrection from the dead.

Modesty is for All ladies

Please listen to this 8:44 minute sermon clip from Pastor Jack Hyles. The sermon is titled, YOU CAN'T KEEP A GOOD MAN DOWN (but the truth applies to you ladies too). Brother Hyles confronts a woman who has an arrow on her abdomen pointing down to the most sacred place on a woman's body (her private area). Brother Hyles shares his heart on the matter. This clip is so precious and filled with truth. No man is fit to enter the pulpit. God only saves THE UNGODLY (Romans 4:5-6). Aren't you glad that God isn't as hard on us as we are on each other? We never forget! If a person sins, we throw it in their face 20-years later. That's heathendom.

In the 1980's I was sitting in church listening to Dr. Hyles preach one Sunday night. He wonderfully said something I'll never forget. He said, “First Baptist Church of Hammond will become a great church when we stop saying 'he has sinned' and 'she has sinned' and we start saying 'we have sinned.'” Amen!!! Oh if married couples would learn this truth! If you ladies truly understood this truth you'd never, ever, file for divorce. WE HAVE SINNED! nearly every woman who files for divorce childishly and hypocritically blames her husband, roasting him and crying aloud, broadcasting his sins for everyone to hear. She's trying to justify her sin of divorce by telling everyone how wicked her husband is! She's being a gigantic hypocrite! No one has a right to condemn another human being like that (James 4:12; 5:9). A wife that files for divorce is not prudent. If she had any genuine love, she'd not go around parading her husband sins. It is wrong!

There have been umpteen celebrity divorces in the news in recent years. I remember when Sandra Bullock received a big award from Hollywood. She cried and said she owed it all to her husband Jesse James. Then it came out shortly thereafter in the news that he had been unfaithful to her. The newsmedia stalked them. One guy shoved a camera in Jesse's car and he hit the guy, ending up arrested and in jail. The newsmedia are the scum of the earth! All you heard in the newsmedia was how evil Jesse is and how wonderful Sandra is. Sandra divorced Jesse. A month later she made headlines at an MTV event when she locked lips in a LESBIAN KISS with Scarlett Johansson at the 2010 MTV awards. What a big hypocrite!

Divorce is Self-righteous Hypocrisy

Divorce is hypocrisy and you hypocrites who divorce your husband are going to be shocked on Judgment Day when all your sins are made public (Luke 8:17). People categorize sin, deciding which sins are worse than others. God doesn't do that. Prayerlessness is akin to atheism, murder and adultery. If we don't pray, God is going to hold us accountable for disobeying his command to pray without ceasing (1st Thessalonians 5:17). Your problem is that you think your husband's sins are worse than yours, but God says they're just as bad (James 2:10). WE HAVE SINNED! If you don't see that then you need to get right with God, for you don't know Him as you should. God's love is UNCONDITIONAL. The idea that it's ok to jump ship when one's spouse goes into sin is no where taught in the Word of God. A just man falleth seven times, yet riseth again! You women divorce your husband after he messes up 2 or 3 times. jesus said to forgive not 7, but 70 times 7 in Matthew 18:22. Stay married! Don't quit! Ok, your husband is a sinner... SO ARE YOU!

Many woman get hare-lipped and upset over my anti-feminist, Biblical, teachings. Get mad at God ladies, because He wrote the Bible. 1st Timothy 2:9 teaches women to dress modestly. 1st Timothy 5:15-15 teaches for women not to pursue careers; but rather, marry, bear children, guide the house and stay out of trouble (instead of gossiping and giving your husband a hard time). Women love to gossip, almost as much as men. Divorce is a horrible sin that perpetuates a lifetime and reaps horrible consequences in eternity. There are literally thousands of adverse repercussions following a divorce, from which scum lawyers and judges profit in the home-wrecking business these days.

There's no such thing as a friendly divorce. Once the corrupt American court system gets a hold of you, you're finished for life. They'll break you, humiliate you, rip apart your life piece-by-piece, financially rape you, and leave you terrified to get remarried. Judges are trash who think they can do whatever they please to people's lives without eternal consequences; but in reality they are criminals who are going to get theirs on Judgment Day. Nearly all of them will be burning in the fires of Hell (Isaiah 13:11). An honest person couldn't stomach the crooked court system enough today to continue working in it. Those who do have very hard-hearts against everything holy, righteous, and truly of God.

God's Unconditional Love is Our Example to Follow

Wicked, feminist, rebels are always thinking in hypotheticals. What if a man does this? What if a man does that? What if a husband does this? What if a husband does that? I have a novel idea... What if a wife obeyed her husband as Christ? Ephesians 5:22, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” You'll NEVER hear a bratty feminist talk about obedience to God-ordained, masculine authority. Rebels look for excuses not to submit, comply and obey higher authority. This is why the evil world is always waiting for the next Christian to fall. The world really hates Jesus Christ (John 15:19). When a wife hurts, slanders, betrays and divorces her husband, she is committing all those woeful evils against the Lord Jesus Christ!

On Judgment Day the first thing those evil women are going to do is point their hypocritical fingers at their husband. God is going to say, “We're not talking about him right now, we're talking about you.” The Bible teaches that every individual shall give account unto God (Romans 14:10-12). Tears will flow as believers are held accountable for the GOOD and the BAD done in the flesh (2nd Corinthians 5:9-11).

I'm going to say something that most women won't agree with, because you have not known the closeness of the love of God. The true God of the Bible is remarkably forgiving and His mercy is never ending. Read Psalm 136 and you'll notice that all 26 Verses end with the same wonderful words... FOR HIS MERCY ENDURETH FOR EVER!!!

Psalms:136:1: O give thanks unto the LORD; for he is good: for his mercy endureth for ever.
Psalms:136:2: O give thanks unto the God of gods: for his mercy endureth for ever.
Psalms:136:3: O give thanks to the Lord of lords: for his mercy endureth for ever.
Psalms:136:4: To him who alone doeth great wonders: for his mercy endureth for ever.
Psalms:136:5: To him that by wisdom made the heavens: for his mercy endureth for ever.
Psalms:136:6: To him that stretched out the earth above the waters: for his mercy endureth for ever.
Psalms:136:7: To him that made great lights: for his mercy endureth for ever:
Psalms:136:8: The sun to rule by day: for his mercy endureth for ever:
Psalms:136:9: The moon and stars to rule by night: for his mercy endureth for ever.
Psalms:136:10: To him that smote Egypt in their firstborn: for his mercy endureth for ever:
Psalms:136:11: And brought out Israel from among them: for his mercy endureth for ever:
Psalms:136:12: With a strong hand, and with a stretched out arm: for his mercy endureth for ever.
Psalms:136:13: To him which divided the Red sea into parts: for his mercy endureth for ever:
Psalms:136:14: And made Israel to pass through the midst of it: for his mercy endureth for ever:
Psalms:136:15: But overthrew Pharaoh and his host in the Red sea: for his mercy endureth for ever.
Psalms:136:16: To him which led his people through the wilderness: for his mercy endureth for ever.
Psalms:136:17: To him which smote great kings: for his mercy endureth for ever:
Psalms:136:18: And slew famous kings: for his mercy endureth for ever:
Psalms:136:19: Sihon king of the Amorites: for his mercy endureth for ever:
Psalms:136:20: And Og the king of Bashan: for his mercy endureth for ever:
Psalms:136:21: And gave their land for an heritage: for his mercy endureth for ever:
Psalms:136:22: Even an heritage unto Israel his servant: for his mercy endureth for ever.
Psalms:136:23: Who remembered us in our low estate: for his mercy endureth for ever:
Psalms:136:24: And hath redeemed us from our enemies: for his mercy endureth for ever.
Psalms:136:25: Who giveth food to all flesh: for his mercy endureth for ever.
Psalms:136:26: O give thanks unto the God of heaven: for his mercy endureth for ever.

God repeats Himself for a good reason ladies... because His mercy endureth for ever. Even if your spouse goes to prison, you are to regularly visit him or her, and be by their side 'til death do us part!!!

Proverb 31:27-28, "She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her."

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