IS MASTURBATION A SIN?
By David J. Stewart | July 2019
1st Peter 2:11, “Dearly
beloved, I beseech you as strangers
and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the soul.”
No! Something tells me that this will become one of my ministry's most popular webpages. So be it, if it happens. I want to help others in the Lord. I am writing this article as a Christian man in all holiness and propriety. For many years I have avoided this subject of masturbation, simply because it is embarrassing for good men to talk about. Albeit, one of the most common questions that I receive from male web visitors is about MASTURBATION. So I decided to help other men with this difficult aspect of being a man.
It really is difficult, not having a woman to satisfy your physical needs as a man. I speak as a normal healthy man. Matthew 11:15, “He that hath ears to hear, let him hear.” I am now 52 years old. My beloved wife divorced me when I was 39 years old in 2006. It was her choice alone, but I am a sinner just like her, so I don't condemn her. We all sin in different ways! Nevertheless, I struggled after she left, not having a sex partner. 1st Corinthians 7:5b, “Defraud ye not one the other... that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.” It doesn't help that women nowadays dress promiscuously in public. It was very difficult for me when my wife abandoned me, and I was depressed often and frustrated.
The Word of God confirms this difficult area for men. 1st Corinthians 7:5, “Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.” I get frustrated just reading that Bible verse, because I have lived alone now for 13 years without a wife!!! Sometimes I feel like I cannot face another day alone. We are all living today in a socially-engineered warped American culture. Masturbation has become a necessary evil for many men. Some men can live without sex, others can't sleep at night, and have to cope with the situation the only way possible.
The Luciferian elite are intentionally doing all they can to promote sexual immorality in society. Netflix for years now have shown hardcore pornographic films, with full open nudity.
Retired Navy Commander William Guy Carr (1895-1959) exposes the Luciferian elite (Read more):
“According, to Satanism, it is perfectly right, and proper, to encourage moral turpitude in all classes of society, and at all levels of government, by convincing the public that abnormal sexual behaviour is normal; and that the moral code accepted by civilized nations, based on the Commandments of God and teachings of the Holy Scriptures, is old fashioned and introduced by Church and state for selfish purposes. But behind the building up of a WRONG conception of sex, and its purposes as intended by God our Creator, is the Satanic principle that “The best revolutionary is a youth absolutely devoid of morals.” When Lenin stated this as recorded in Pawns in The Game he only confirmed what other Satanists had stated a hundred times previously. It is Satanism, as it is direct from THE TOP, which is responsible for the increase in juvenile delinquency, but those selected by the governments of the world to investigate this problem invariably give every CAUSE other than the right one.” [emphasis added]
SOURCE: Satan: Prince Of This World, by Commander William Guy Carr, p. 56.
I also agree with prolific author, professor Henry Makow, in Canada, who states:
The masculine sex drive is a powerful creative force but it needs to be controlled and steered. We can do this by applying the brake (sublimation) and then releasing it (masturbation.) Every man is different and must find his own formula.
The world is run by a satanic (Cabalist i.e. Masonic Jewish) sex cult based in London which controls brainwashing (media and education.) They use sex to distract, degrade and control both men and women. The New World Order plan is to restore the feudal model in which we are serfs at best. They undermine resistance to their plot by destroying our sources of cohesion and identity: nation, race, religion and family.
Slavery begins with the mind. We can resist by not being controlled by sex. [emphasis mine]
SOURCE: Managing The Male Sex Drive
Men are under Satanic attack today, and if you are not aware of what is happening, you may end up in prison for the rest of your life with thousands of other unsuspecting men, who were naive to the demonic conspiracy to destroy men in these end times of Bible prophecy! And of course, many men are fully aware, but the FLESH IS WEAK the Holy Bible says. Mark 14:38, “Watch ye and pray, lest ye enter into temptation. The spirit truly is ready, but the flesh is weak.” No one is invulnerable to sexual temptation. The key is to put as many safeguard barriers between our self and sin as possible! For example: A newly married couple should break off contact with their old single friends. Pastor Jack Hyles (1926-2001) teaches this safeguard in his very helpful MP3 sermon titled, “Slippery When Wet!”
The Benefits Of Being Single | YouTube (a life-changing sermon by Pastor John K. Jenkins Sr.)
Another safeguard is for a single man to masturbate at home, before he knows he will be around women at church (some of whom dress promiscuously these days), or in a situation where temptation may arise. This helps a man be in control, instead of suffering from desire. Ideally, marriage is best, but in the case of a divorced man where God forbids him to remarry, it is better to satisfy one's self “THAN TO BURN,” as the Bible teaches (1st Corinthians 7:9). There is nothing to be ashamed of, but I don't think a man should talk openly about this in public, because it is inappropriate. People WILL make fun of you, because they are cruel. I am being honest and transparent for the sake of other men, especially my Christian brethren, to help you. There is nothing sinful about masturbating to prevent yourself from committing sexual sin!!! It is actually a wise thing to do my friend. Yes, masturbation is a wise thing to do, if it will help prevent sexual immorality and perhaps even prevent destroying someone's life. From this standpoint, masturbation should be considered a healthy practice for men who have no other alternative than to sin.
Of all the vices, sexual lust is the worst! Pastor Jack Hyles used to wisely say to young men with sexual problems: “You're not over-sexed, you're under-charactered!” I agree with that statement, but it is also true that people vary in sex drive. Some people do a have much stronger sex drive than others! This is true of men and women. That is why I am teaching the truth that masturbation is proper for people who need it. I do not think a married person should masturbate, and you shouldn't need to if your spouse has a godly attitude. 1st Corinthians 7:4, “The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.” This Bible verse simply means that you ought never deny a request for sex from your spouse. Many many and woman have been compelled to commit adultery because of a romantically distant partner. I like the bumper-sticker which reads: The secret to a happy marriage is NOBODY WEARS THE PANTS! Sex is the fire in a marriage.
Carnal knowledge (sex) is a beautiful thing made by God. It was the Lord Himself that designed our human bodies. Psalms 139:14, “I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.” Sex is a beautiful thing within the proper bounds of a legal marriage. It is tragic when the sacredness of marriage is violated. Americans society today has sunk to the lowest possible moral level, permitting homosexuals to get marriage and even adopt children. Thank God for the traditional marriage and family! I get frustrated when I listen to the Old Testament, when I hear about saints who had dozens of wives. Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines. A concubine didn't have the same rights as a wife. I learned the other day that Solomon's son followed in his father's sex-perverted behavior, having 60 wives and 18 concubines and 88 children! I get frustrated when I hear things like that, and I don't have even one wife, and am all alone.
I am often reminded of a Scripture that says the time will come when SEVEN WOMEN will grab a hold of one man, begging to be his wife. Isaiah 4:1, “And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, We will eat our own bread, and wear our own apparel: only let us be called by thy name, to take away our reproach.” Wow! I want to be that lucky guy! In 2019, men are running away from American women—because they are proud feminists, fat as cows, divorced, having two or more children, and only still in their 20's! And those women all have shopping lists for the type of man they want. Women today want a man to “complete” her, but God made Eve to complete Adam, a “help meet” (Genesis 2:18).
I admire Job, a godly man who likely lived at the same time as the book of Genesis, who only married ONE WIFE. Job struggled with lust like we do today, which is why he said in Job 31:1, “I made a covenant with mine eyes; why then should I think upon a maid?” Notice that Job mentioned THINKING. A man first sees with his eyes, and then he lusts with his mind. So like Job, we need to be wise and not look in the first place. Job said: I made a covenant with my eyes! Job didn't make any promises to God, which is a serious matter if broken, but instead he did make an agreement with himself to live right. I have done the same thing as Job, and I encourage you dear reader to do the same. Men can still live right in 2019!
Coping in These Perilous Times
May I say again, with all Biblical certainty, there is nothing sinful about masturbation, and for some men it is a necessary way of life. NO MAN wants to live that way, but in this crazy ungodly generation where beautiful women are becoming lesbians, and many others are pursuing secular careers (not interested in marriage or motherhood), what is a guy to do? A man does what he has to do to cope with his situation. I am 100% against prisons, which is the number one cause for men and women becoming homosexuals behind bars. Women as well as men turn into homosexuals because of the intense sex drive, which cannot merely be disregarded and tuned off like a coffee maker. Some people have it worse than others, but any normal person (especially men) have this bodily need. Even some of the prison guards succumb to sexual temptation with the prisons (both male and female). This evidences the powerful drives at work within the human body and soul. 1st Peter 2:11, “Dearly beloved, I beseech you as strangers and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the soul.” The sex urge wars against the human soul the Bible warns.
ABOVE: This is a snapshot from a YouTube video (Title: Millions Of Single Chinese Men Desperately Seeking A Wife). There are 71,000,000 More Men Than Women in China today. This is due to China's One Child Policy passed in 1979. In 2015 the Chinese government changed it to a Two Child Policy. Here we see how communist oppression, and manmade tampering with God's creation, always wreaks havoc. When left alone, God has made it so that the balance between male and female is always very close to 50/50. It is tragic that any man should have to resort to such drastic measures to cope with life! Every man needs a real wife. Literally, wives are being kidnapped throughout China, raped and made another man's wife! This often happens in the remote mountains.
Why do you think thousands of Roman Catholics priests get into sexual trouble? There have been 50,000 reported cases of sexual abuse within the Catholic church since 1950 in the United States. It is because of the Vatican's unscriptural prohibition for priests to get married to wives! What saith the Scripture? ...
1st Timothy 4:1-3, “Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils; Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron; Forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from meats, which God hath created to be received with thanksgiving of them which believe and know the truth.”
Every man ought to have his own wife, and every wife ought to have her own husband (1st Corinthians 7:1-2). God's solution to fornication is to get married. Also, please understand that I am not endorsing masturbation as a healthy way for anyone to live, but it is far more healthy than fornicating. 1st Corinthians 6:18, “Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.” The preceding Bible verse warns of Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD's), which in Bible times had no cures. Sexual sins are damaging, because they form “SOUL TIES” with the partners involved, and that undermines a person's soul.
The bad thing about masturbation is that doing it over a prolonged period of years, breaks down a man's self-confidence, making him feel inferior and less of a man. It is not a mere coincidence that America and other developed societies are completely dysfunctional these days—because of the damaging influence of feminist rebellion promoted through the ungodly media, the ungodly LGBTQ movement, the lucrative greedy divorce racket perpetrated by the courts, depriving children of the truth in the Holy Bible (and replacing it with teaching children the blatant fraud of Evolution), counterfeit churches who sanction hundreds of corrupt Bible versions, et cetera. For these evils and many more, first world civilizations today (Australia, Europe, the United States, China, Japan) have become a nightmare in which to try to find a husband or wife!
A Century Ago Versus Today
Women are no longer approachable (including Christian women). A century ago little girls all played with dolls, wore dresses and cherished the thought of becoming a wife and mother someday. Boys did chores, mowed neighbour's lawns and learned to work and be responsible at a very young age. So by the time they were 14 years old, young men were mature, and young women were mature. They often married young in the southern states at age 14 and stayed married for life! Men went to work and provided for the family, and women stayed home to care for her family, preparing a proper dinner for a couple hours, helping the kids with their school work, and having plenty of duties to keep herself busy. Women loved their husbands back then, and were honored to be a homemaker, because that is what all the other women were also doing. Those were the good old days!
Today, in sharp and horrible contrast, little girls are wearing high heels and lip gloss, playing with electronic gadgets (cellphones and surfing the web) instead of dolls, consumed with finding a “hot guy” for dating instead of playing hide-and-seek, taught by example from Walt Disney and their raunchy music idols to fornicate (premarital sex), which is destructive to a youth's future. Kids have it all backwards today, jumping from adolescence to adulthood and completely bypassing their juvenile years as a teenager, which ought to be some of the most fun, exciting and meaningful years of life. It is terrible to see kids become parents at 14 years of age, missing out on a proper courtship and enjoying the normal growth years while being a teenager! Young boys should be taught life's skills in high school (how to throw and catch a ball, how to use a saw to cut a board, how to pound a nail into wood, how to perform basic tasks on a car (i.e., changing a tire, adding fluids to their proper compartment, using jumper cables, et cetera).
There is nothing as beautiful as a legal marriage between one man and one woman for a lifetime. My parents went through many difficult times, and had lots of fights and marital troubles, but they were together for 36 YEARS until my mother went to Heaven in 2001. Praise the Lord for longevity in marriage!
Practical Advice About Masturbation
To masturbate, a man ought not use his hand, because that is not very satisfying. Here's what you do guys—take a larger size pillow (or one that is comfortable for you), and place about seven napkins on the center of the pillow, then fold the pillow in half to simulate a woman. With a little imagination it does the job. Please don't quote me on that...lol.
Granted, there's nothing like the real thing, but once you are finished (whether you be married or alone without a woman) your will be relieved and be able to sleep at night, and cope with your difficult situation. I am being very transparent and honest to help other men. The pillow is MUCH BETTER than the hand (i.e., Rosy Palm and her five sisters). If you think I'm a pervert, then you are a rotten person for judging a man who doesn't have a wife, and you are woefully ignorant of how a man's body works. Men aren't like women, they can't just turn off their sex drive. Thus, masturbation is sometimes necessary and nothing to be ashamed of fellas. As Pastor Jack Hyles wisely said: I don't have a dirty mind, I have a man's mind!
If I were a king over a land, I would make sure that every man in my kingdom had a wife, and every wife a husband. THAT IS BIBLICAL! 1st Corinthians 7:1-2, “Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.” If a man is to avoid the sin of fornication, he has one of two choices: To find a wife, or masturbate! I would 10,000 times prefer the wife, but I haven't found her yet! If the Lord puts me in charge of a city during His millennial reign (because the Scripture teaches we will reign with Him - Revelation 20:6), I will make sure that everyone is married. People simply don't care about each other in these apostate times. All the Bible colleges and churches want is money!
As of 2019, I have lived alone for 13 difficult years without a mate, coming home each day to a kitchen sink and refrigerator; so be encouraged dear reader, if you are alone, if you are also without a mate, I understand and share your grief and frustration. 1st Peter 5:8-9, “Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour: Whom resist stedfast in the faith, knowing that the same afflictions are accomplished in your brethren that are in the world.” I wrote this article knowing that 99 our of 100 readers will go away laughing and mocking me, but that 1 person who is in my situation will love me for writing this, to encourage your soul. That is the dear mind of our precious Savior. Matthew 18:12, “How think ye? if a man have an hundred sheep, and one of them be gone astray, doth he not leave the ninety and nine, and goeth into the mountains, and seeketh that which is gone astray?”
There are some nice benefits to being single; such as, total freedom, no one to fight with, no one to mess up the house, no one to call the cops on me, no one to drag me into court, no one to ruin my life again, no one to mess with my stuff, no one to aggravate my neck pain, no one to complain and cause me grief (like my x-wife did for 18 years). Albeit, I saw a man and his wife arguing in the local grocery store, and I wished that I had a wife to fuss with. So I am 100% against the increasingly popular MGTOW movement (Men Going Their Own Way!). I very much have been searching for a wife, to no avail, but after 13 years I am starting to often think about an MP3 sermon I heard by Pastor Hyles titled, "Let Yourself Know What Yourself Already Knows!” It seems like I am never going to be remarried, unfortunately, but by God's grace I would like to. The Lord Jesus knows what is best, and I love Him more every day.
Tens of millions of men live alone today, for many reasons. As a man grows older, his chances of getting married significantly decreases. In China and other places in the world, parents actually pay money to find their sons a wife. This is a lot more popular than you might realize. I have watched several dozens of YouTube documentaries about marrying a foreign bride. In South Korea, men say that their women are Americanized (bossy, feminist and difficult to control), so South Korean men are going to other countries, primarily Vietnam to find a wife!
In China, because of the communist government's One Child Policy since 1979, decades later there is a surplus of 20,000,000 Chinese men (and thus shortage of 20,000,000 women) who cannot find wives. Men are losing their minds, and so the answer for many men are life-size women manikins to have sex with! The reason for the shortage of women is that parents prefer a boy to carry on the family heritage. China in 2015 changed it's horrible policy to a less oppressive Two Child Policy; and it is also now against Chinese law for doctors to tell parents the gender of their child before giving birth (but through bribes many still do it). What is a lonely man to do?
Shockingly, 71,000,000 Chinese girls have been murdered through abortion and infanticide!!!
A lot of men are like old dogs—quiet, cranky and they don't want their chain yanked until it's dinner time! I'm somewhat that way at age 52. I have read several hundred dating profiles of women over the past 2 years. Many are into extreme sports, but I hate sports of all kinds! Others want a man to “complete them,” but that is backwards, because God created Eve to be a “HELP MEET” for Adam. Genesis 2:18, “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” I kindly smile at women when I go walking in the park, hoping to meet someone. Some look at me like they hate me. Others won't go walking anymore. A couple of them brought their boyfriends back, to let me know they are not available. What's a poor guy to do? Pakistan is on the brink of bankruptcy and poor ungodly parents are selling their allegedly Christian daughters to marry Chinese men. Many of the girls are abused and then returned back to Pakistan, after being impregnated and the child is kept in China. Truly the love of money is the root of all evil (1st Timothy 6:10).
The apostle Paul was not your average guy. We cannot use Paul as an example of how unmarried men are supposed to live, because Paul plainly called his predicament without a wife, “A GIFT.” 1st Corinthians 7:7, “For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.” Most men don't have that gift of celibacy, nor do I. I hate living alone and long for the day I can find a wife, Lord willing. 1st Corinthians 7:27-28, “Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.” The Bible does not forbid looking for a wife if unmarried, but Paul recommends it. There will be “TROUBLE IN THE FLESH” in any marriage, because you are uniting two sinners.
Pastor Jack Hyles wisely said: Divorce is a sin that perpetuates for a lifetime. 1st Corinthians 7:9, “But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.” When a person files for divorce, they are forcing their spouse to commit adultery by remarrying another. GOD HATES DIVORCE (Jeremiah 3:20; Malachi 2:16). There is not a more controversial, debated and heated topic than divorce and remarriage. Thus, I tread on sacred soil lightly. If you talk to a dozen different preachers on the matter, you'll get a dozen different answers; and each preacher will claim that he is going strictly by WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS! Kindly, I heard a Baptist preacher say: Sex is the most overrated thing in the world! However, that is an oversimplification of the matter, because men are going to prison left and right due to sexual misbehavior (and women too!). The solution is not to pretend like there is not a problem, but to deal with it.
1st Peter 2:11, “Dearly beloved, I beseech you as strangers and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the soul.”
Committing sexual sins leads to more sexual sins! Please hear the MP3 sermon be Pastor Jack Hyles called, “IRON-YOKE MAKERS!”
I wish there were a law in the United States like in the Philippines, where divorce is never permitted for any reason, then I wouldn't be in this situation! But once there is a divorce—terrorizing a man with the ungodly U.S. court system, stripping him of his home and finances, robbing him of all confidence as a sovereign man, causing him inexplicable emotional trauma and pain of soul, and utterly ruining his life—trust becomes a major issue in remarriage. There is nothing worse than a fool for a wife! Proverbs 31:12, “She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.”
Evangelist John R. Rice (1895-1980) hints to the need for masturbation in the following writing:
Somebody says, 'Oh, but this homosexual matter—people are made that way.' No. Everybody is made a sinner. Everybody has some sex drive. Everybody would like to satisfy it some way, particularly men. Whether through a woman, or whether it is with a beast, or whether it is with a man, the truth is, it is all the same sin. God has ways for men to have control over themselves and do right! You need not call it sickness; it is wicked sin. [emphasis added]
SOURCE: Dr. John R. Rice — “Adultery and Sex Perversion” (booklet), pg. 17-18; copyright 1978; Sword Of The Lord Publishers.
The only way that a man can have control over himself to satisfy his sexual urge is through MASTURBATION!
If a man lives alone, and knows that he will be tempted at church around women (especially in today's ungodly American culture where women wear miniskirts to church), he would be wise to masturbate before going to church, to remove that urge which will make him uncomfortable at church. I think that is wisdom.
I was sitting in church one Sunday morning, and a young woman came and sat beside me. She seemed about 18. For some reason she kept crossing her legs, dozens of times throughout the church service. She was wearing a skirt which revealed a portion of her thighs. She crossed her legs so much that I still sincerely think she was deliberately trying to seduce me for some reason. It made me uncomfortable, but I was able to ignore her because of what I just told you. Had I not been prepared for her, I would have had to leave the service in great discomfort. Women don't understand how rough men have it, they really don't.
And sadly, some of them do know, and they enjoy watching men squirm in agony. Proverbs 6:26, “For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread: and the adulteress will hunt for the precious life.” For some women, teasing men sexually is a sport to them, covering their home wall with the stuffed mantles of lions, tigers and men! The sexual urge is not something that should merely be ignored, it needs to be dealt with, to protect one's soul from sin. Masturbation is helpful and normal for a single man without a wife, when needed. There is nothing to be ashamed about or embarrassed about masturbation, but I wouldn't go around talking about it in public. That would fall under the acronym “TMI” (too much information). Keep it to yourself, unless helping another man, as I am helping others.
I was on an airplane flying from Guam to California for my second major neck surgery in 2010. I sat next to a Caucasian religious man—a speaking-in-tongues, healing crusade, Charismatic, with a Korean woman for a corrupt pastor in Colorado—who was reading a corrupt New King James Bible. He was talking with the man on his right for about an hour into the flight, and then he began to talk with me (unfortunately). He said he was a retired commercial airplane pilot, with 20 years experience flying the friendly skies. We began to talk and then he startled me, enumerating his many sins by name, one of which (in his mind) was MASTURBATION! He said it loud enough for passengers around us to hear. All I could think is how bold this guy was to admit such a thing openly, in the presence of women on a plane. Dr. Jack Hyles use to wisely say: Don't be reluctant to admit to others that you have feet of clay, but don't ever show them your feet!
No where in the Bible are we taught that self-gratification is a sin. Sex is a need. The Holy Bible talks about the “BURN” of sexual desire. 1st Corinthians 7:9, “But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.” As Dr. John R. Rice rightly teaches—everybody has some sexual desire and wants to satisfy it one way or another, particularly men! Why would God be upset with a man for doing the one thing that he can do to relieve himself of THE BURN, which doesn't involve committing a sin?
Psalms 46:1-2, “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore will not we fear, though the earth be removed, and though the mountains be carried into the midst of the sea.”
Souls Are Dying!
How Permanent Is Your Salvation?
(an excellent MP3 sermon by Pastor Hank Lindstrom, 1940-2008)
Mark 1:15: “...repent ye, and believe the gospel.”
of the child of God is that he loves everybody!”
(a quote from Pastor Jack Hyles' classic MP3 sermon, “FORGIVENESS”)
Mark 11:22, “And Jesus answering saith unto them, Have faith in God.”
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