Me? Obey Him?

By David J. Stewart

Ephesians 5:22, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.”

A young woman recently wrote to me and asked if a wife is obligated by God to obey a husband who tells her to commit lesbianism. I get hypothetical questions like this quite often from feminist women. No woman who is right with God would ever ask a question like that. It couldn't be more obvious that she has much resentment toward the notion that a wife should obey her husband. It's really a matter of obeying God. That's exactly why Ephesians 5:22 commands wives to submit unto their own husbands as unto God.

We find a similar situation with Eve in the Garden of Eden. God told her not to eat of the forbidden fruit. Instead of having a submissive spirit, Eve focused on her restriction... Genesis 3:3, “But of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God hath said, Ye shall not eat of it, neither shall ye touch it, lest ye die.” There is no record in the Bible of God forbidding Adam and Eve from “touching” the fruit of the tree of knowledge. They were only commanded not to “eat” the fruit. Eve told the serpent that God forbade them from “touching” the fruit. Eve was putting words in God's mouth. Eve had a defiant attitude, which led to her downfall.

This is why every abortionist grasps for the "coat hanger in the back alley abortion" story. There's not even one such documented incident in medical history. They attempt to use extreme scenarios to justify the norm. This is why feminists continually grasp for the O.J. Simpson case in an effort to cripple the authority of every husband and father in America. And this is why feminist rebels “force the issue” on a husband's degree of authority in a marriage. The very fact that they're forcing the issue shows their evil and rebellious heart toward the Biblical matter of a wife obeying her husband.

A genuine Christian lady who loves Jesus Christ doesn't ask hypothetical questions as to when she should throw in the towel on her marriage or rebel against her husband. Many women today enter into a marriage relationship with a feminist chip on their shoulder, having predetermined when they are going to quit. They are allowing for failure. As a consequence of such feminist thinking, husbands are on continual trial with their wives and the divorce rate has sky-rocketed in America. Women file for divorce in the U.S. more than TWICE the rate of men.1 It is sinful. God hates divorce.

Jesus said in Matthew 7:3, “And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?” Many wives become self-righteous in their marriage relationship and blame their husband for everything, convincing them self that they have a right to abandon and divorce. This is exactly what Eve did in the Garden of Eden. She concocted 3 lame excuses why it would benefit her to disobey God and eat the forbidden fruit:

  1. Eve said the fruit would be nourishing.

  2. Eve said the fruit was pleasant to the eyes.

  3. Eve said the fruit would make her wise

Genesis 3:6, “And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat.” Eve was dead wrong, just as are the feminists! Every woman who files for divorce has all kinds of lame excuses, but God said to forgive 70 times 7 (Matthew 18:22).

Yes ladies, you are to obey your husband. Don't enter your marriage asking a bunch of hypothetical questions about things that will likely never happen. If you do, you are just going to make yourself paranoid. Most of the patients in mental institutions are women. Do you know why? It's because of feminism. If you are the right kind of wife and strive to please God by pleasing your husband in every way, then he is far more likely to listen to you when you talk to him. Don't let feminism cause you to become intolerant of your husband.

I don't even have to wonder for a moment if the woman whom I've mentioned to you is going to end up divorced. Yes! She's not even married yet and is already thinking about when she should rebel and quit. Feminism programs women to be paranoid. Please read this.


“Why does not the Bible limit a wife's obedience to her husband? Why does the Scripture not say, as many wish it did say, that a wife should be subject to her husband as long as he is right and true to the Bible? Or why does it not say, as Mrs. Goforth interprets it in How I Know God Answers Prayer, that a wife should be subject to her husband in all matters but spiritual matters? But that is not what the Bible commands. Rather the Bible says, 'Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord,' that is, as unto Jesus Christ, and so of course in complete submission. And again, 'Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing' (Eph. 5:22,24).”

SOURCE: Success-Prone Christians, by Dr. John R. Rice; chapter 2; pg. 44,45