For Better, For Worse
By David J. Stewart
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Each and every married couple made the same promise to each other on their wedding day in their marriage VOWS ... "for better, for worse." Tragically, we are a nation of bold-faced LIARS! The United States has the highest divorce rate in the world, bar none--twice as high as the next highest country (Sweden) and 50 times higher than some countries. This is the direct result of feminism. Woe unto America! God hates divorce. Biblically, no wife has any right to divorce her husband.
There are NO grounds for divorce. The divorce rate in the US has increased fifty-fold since women were given legal rights (as proven in the chart to the right). The average marriage in America today has mutated into a two-headed monster because women are no longer willing to obey their husband. We are living in perilous times of apostasy, when even so-called "Christian" churches are recommending divorces. Any religious or church leaders who preach that divorce is acceptable are GUILTY of apostasy:
Apostasy, APOS'TASY, n. [Gr. a defection, to depart.], An abandonment of what one has professed; a total desertion, or departure from one's faith or religion."But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment." -Matthew 12:36
Woe unto anti-family churches who help destroy marriages! God hates divorce! Sadly, and tragically, feminism has crept into America's churches and the divorce rate amongst Christians has skyrocketed. I say this to their shame. Please read, The Church Impotent: The Feminization of Christianity. No pastor or Christian has any Biblical right to advice someone to file for divorce. Do you know what you are doing when you advice someone to divorce? You are judging, condemning, and punishing the other spouse. What gives you that right? James 4:12 warns, "There is one lawgiver, who is able to save and to destroy: who art thou that judgest another?"
Abandon Your Man?
Tammy Wynette may have sang, Stand By Your Man, in 1968; but, she went through five husbands in her lifetime. She abandoned her second husband to run off with country singer George Jones, a drunkard. Tammy also had a well publicized relationship with actor Burt Reynolds in the 1970s. Her fourth marriage, to Michael Tomlin, lasted only six weeks. Stand by your man? I guess it was just a song to Tammy, and not something she truly believed in her heart. In 2003 a survey of country music writers, producers and stars listed Stand by Your Man as the top country song of all time. Ironically, country music is one of the leading causes of divorce in the United States.
Country music and divorce go hand-in-hand. It's part of the business. Country music is some of the most despicable, immoral, disgusting, and perverted music ever produced--and God hates it! Adultery and fornication are commonplace amongst country music artists and producers. George Jones himself has gone through four wives. This is progressive adultery, going from one relationship to the next. What ever happened to "'til death do us part"?
Tragically, the marriage VOWS have become meaningless words to most people. In newspapers all across America, a little section regularly appears titled "Annie's Mailbox" (i.e., Dear Annie). Annie's Mailbox is written by feminists Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. In these articles, people submit questions to the writers of Dear Annie, who publish the questions with a written response for all to see. They have a cult of followers. The big problem with these two is that they have no reservation to recommend divorce, nor do they base their advice upon the Scriptures. One of their recent columns in May of 2006 was titled, "Bite the bullet, honey, and cut your husband loose."
What a bunch of jerks! There is nothing God hates any more than jerks who go around breaking up marriages. Proverb 6:16,19 state ... "These six things doth the LORD hate ... he that soweth discord among brethren." If God hates sowing discord amongst brethren, then how much more does he hate the breaking up of marriages? It is a serious crime in God's eyes to advise or help anyone to get a divorce. If you really want to help the couple, then help BOTH of them! Women aren't the only one's struggling in life. Only a malicious monster would advice a wife to divorce her husband. Everyone's an expert these days. Everyone thinks they know what's best for a man's wife, like he doesn't.
Every married couple made a PROMISE to each other on their wedding day to remain faithful ... "for better, for worse; in sickness, as in health; for richer, for poorer; 'til death do us part." And in the case of a truly Christian wedding, "to obey" for the wife. Tragically, many people are LIARS and don't care about their promises. Should it be surprising in a murderous nation of abortionists that keeping our promises means so little? In a nation of party-goers and drunkards? In a nation of adulterers and gamblers? No, not at all. America is filled with liars. We are a sinful people in the United States, and we DESERVE God's fiery judgment upon us! Divorce is a sin caused only by sinful pride!
I'm so sick and tired of hearing pro-divorce people saying, "God never intended for us to live in misery." Excuse me! You made a promise on your wedding "to have and to hold; to love and to cherish ... for better, for WORSE! What gives you a right now to abandon your spouse, when they've trusted you to keep your promise NEVER to leave? Thank God that He has promised NEVER to leave, nor forsake us (Hebrews 13:5). Unlike many people, God is NOT a liar (Titus 1:2). Most people view marriage as a job, that they can quit when they don't like it anymore, and move on. This is heathendom. Just because a wife doesn't love her husband anymore doesn't give her a right to divorce. Just because a wife is no longer attractive to her husband doesn't give him a right to divorce.
I receive many letters from angry husbands and wives attempting to justify divorce, because my website is haunting them. I take an unapologetic and uncompromising Biblical stand against divorce. They tell me all about their abusive situations, how they've endured so much misery, and how they shouldn't have to waste the best years of their life in a bad marriage. How selfish! Christ was willing to be despised, rejected, and crucified for our sins! So why are people so quick to abandon ship and move on? A marriage is supposed to be about genuine love and commitment; NOT what's best for me, myself, and I.
A loving spouse should be patient, and willing to make necessary changes to save the marriage. This may include living separated. Many married people can't live together anymore, they're like gas and fire. So they live separate and meet throughout the week at various times. This requires love and commitment. We must rise above our own personal anger and feelings, and look at our spouse from a Biblical perspective. God wants us to love our spouse, and be forgiving. God wants us to be willing to suffer for them if need be, and if we truly love them we will.
Divorce is Quitting!
The bottom line is that you promised to remain faithful to your spouse on your wedding day until death, and that vow specifically included the likelihood of living through some hellish bad times (the "for worse"). Oh how easy it is for people to forget their marriage vows; BUT, God doesn't! Many faithful Christ-honoring husbands and wives HAVE spent the best years of their lives suffering, living in misery, and just hanging-in-there; BUT, praise God in Heaven, they didn't waste them! God will greatly reward those spouses who stayed-the-course, and didn't skip town when the going got tough. They got going instead, and honored their commitment to remain faithful ... for better, for worse! There's a precious beauty at the end of life, when you can look back and know that you never QUIT. Divorce is QUITTING!
We read the wonderful Scripture in Proverb 24:16, "For a just man falleth seven times, and riseth up again: but the wicked shall fall into mischief." What a precious Verse! A righteous (saved) man WILL fall, and fall, and fall. He's a sinner, as are all men. BUT, the righteous man will RISE UP again, and again, and again ... he never quits on his faith in God or his desire to please God. There are two different Hebrew meanings for the word "falleth" in Proven 24:16. The first "falleth" means "to trip, or stumble"; BUT, the second "falleth" means "to quit, to walk away." Hence, the righteous man tries to live right, in spite of his numerous and repeated failures--he keeps going and doesn't quit! However, the wicked man (or woman) gives up and quits--they don't even try anymore to do the right thing. This Scripture perfectly contrasts the two types of spouses. You will either put up with your spouse because you love him/her and God; or you will quit and divorce because you love yourself.
Apostate Churches are Destroying America!
There's so many apostate churches and pastors nowadays allowing and recommending divorce that people can't handle the Truth when they find it. It's interesting ... 20 pastors or ministries will say it's ok to divorce; but if one Bible-believing Christian says it's not, they go bananas over it! Well I'm giving you the TRUTH of God's Word ... DIVORCE IS A SIN! You made a promise on your wedding day, and there was NO DISCLAIMER. There was NO fine print on your wedding certificate that you signed. I am saddened that so many people nowadays (including professed "Christians") don't even think twice about recommending a divorce. People are so selfish these days, eager to divorce in hopes of finding a BETTER life ... "This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves..." For nearly all divorces, that utopian life never comes to fruition afterwards. You can remarry to anyone you want—their breath will still smell, they will get upset at times, they will still have faults, and you will get into arguments with them at times.
And on top of all that you'll still have to live with the guilt of breaking your marriage vows by filing for divorce. Life isn't always greener on the other side of the fence, there may be a lawnmower waiting to mow you over. Sin is always repackaged in splendor and with good intentions. Don't be deceived! If you don't want to continue in your present problems, then there's plenty of problems when you get to where you THINK you'll be happier. Any irresponsible ingrate can run away, but it takes someone faithful and honest to hang in there when everything seems so wrong ... "That the trial of your faith, being much more precious than of gold that perisheth, though it be tried with fire, might be found unto praise and honour and glory at the appearing of Jesus Christ." -1st Peter 1:7
"Ye have wearied the LORD with your words. Yet ye say, Wherein have we wearied him? When ye say, Every one that doeth evil is good in the sight of the LORD..." —Malachi 2:17
Divorce is a sin! Don't upset God by saying it's not.
can live with Anybody if they can learn to be a Nobody."
—Dr. Tom Williams
if a man think himself to be something, when he is nothing,
he deceiveth himself."
"For if a man think himself to be something, when he is nothing, he deceiveth himself."—Galatians 6:3