The Proverbs 31 Woman

by David J. Stewart

Proverbs 31:10, “Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.”

What is a "Proverbs 31 woman"?  It is a woman who is pleasing to God; and in order to be pleasing to God (in the case of a married woman), she must be obedient and committed to her husband's happiness.  She must be committed to the well being and safety of her children, to loving them, and to promoting their spiritual growth.  No feminist is a Proverbs 31 woman!  No whorish, above the skirt wearing floozy, is is a Proverbs 31 woman!  She is NOT pleasing to God.  No lazy wife, who causes her husband grief, is a Proverbs 31 woman.  Let's go through these Scriptures and find out exactly what the Word of God defines as a Proverbs 31 woman, a godly woman.  Most articles on the Proverbs 31 woman which I have read don't say much, so I'm going to break it down, and give it to you in simple terms.

All the money in the world cannot buy loyalty.  Wealthy men may have their whores and mistresses; but, money cannot buy genuine love, which is a gift from God.  A woman of God is virtuous, wears dresses (modest clothing), and knows the dangers of teasing the opposite sex.  Many women today are horribly malicious, actually enjoying teasing married men to lust upon them.  Can you imagine how hot Hell will be for such home-wreckers if they die without Christ as Savior?  Of course, God doesn't want anyone to die in their sins (2nd Peter 3:9).

In conclusion, there is no such thing as a perfect wife, or husband.  The key to happiness in a marriage is two people who are mutually committed to making the marriage a success.  Many marriages are lopsided, where one spouse shirks their responsibilities, and the other is continually getting upset because of it.  This is unfair.  A happy marriage requires a team effort between husband and wife.  Many husbands are brute tyrants, who won't allow their wives to live.  This is true of religious men especially, who are taught that the wife is supposed to be submissive to her husband. 

Although the Word of God certainly does set forth the man as the head of his household, it doesn't give him any right to be unkind or abusive towards his wife.  Many Christian wives are slaves to a religious jerk.  I say this kindly.  I believe that God wants every wife to be as the woman in Proverbs 31; but, God also expects every husband to be as the husband in Ephesians 5:25-33.  Every husband should be an Ephesians 5 man.

A Proverbs 31 Mother | Download MP3
(a helpful audio sermon by Pastor Jeff Owens)