No! Something tells me that this will become one of my ministry's most
popular webpages. So be it, if it happens. I want to help others in the
Lord. I am writing this article as a Christian man in all holiness and
propriety. For many years I have avoided this subject of masturbation,
simply because it is embarrassing for good men to talk about. Albeit, one of
the most common questions that I receive from male web visitors is about
MASTURBATION. So I decided to help other men with this difficult aspect of
being a man.
It really is difficult, not
having a woman to satisfy your physical needs as a man. I speak as a normal
healthy man. Matthew 11:15, “He that hath ears to hear, let him hear.”
I am now 52 years old. My beloved wife divorced me when I was 39 years
old in 2006. It was her choice alone, but I am a sinner just like her, so I
don't condemn her. We all sin in different ways! Nevertheless, I struggled
after she left, not having a sex partner. 1st Corinthians 7:5b, “Defraud
ye not one the other... that Satan tempt you not for
your incontinency.” It doesn't help that women
nowadays dress promiscuously in public. It was very difficult for me when my
wife abandoned me, and I was depressed often and frustrated.
The Word of God confirms this
difficult area for men. 1st Corinthians 7:5, “Defraud ye not one the
other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to
fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for
your incontinency.” I get frustrated just reading that Bible verse,
because I have lived alone now for 13 years without a wife!!! Sometimes I
feel like I cannot face another day alone. We are all living today in a
socially-engineered warped
American culture. Masturbation has become a necessary evil for many men. Some men can live
without sex, others can't sleep at night, and have to cope with the
situation the only way possible.
The Luciferian elite are
intentionally doing all they can to promote sexual immorality in society.
Netflix for years now have shown hardcore pornographic films, with full open
nudity.
Retired Navy Commander William
Guy Carr (1895-1959) exposes the Luciferian elite (Read
more):
“According,
to Satanism, it is perfectly right, and proper, to encourage moral
turpitude in all classes of society,
and at all levels of government, by
convincing the public that abnormal sexual behaviour is normal;
and that the moral code accepted by civilized nations, based on the
Commandments of God and teachings of the Holy Scriptures, is old
fashioned and introduced by Church and state for selfish purposes. But
behind the building up of a WRONG conception of sex, and its purposes as
intended by God our Creator, is the Satanic principle that “The best
revolutionary is a youth absolutely devoid of morals.” When
Lenin stated this as recorded in Pawns in The Game he only confirmed
what other Satanists had stated a hundred times previously. It
is Satanism, as it is direct from THE TOP, which is responsible for the
increase in juvenile delinquency, but those selected by the governments
of the world to investigate this problem invariably give every CAUSE
other than the right one.” [emphasis
added]
SOURCE: Satan:
Prince Of This World, by Commander William Guy Carr, p. 56.
I also agree with prolific author,
professor Henry Makow, in Canada, who states:
The masculine sex drive is a powerful creative force but it needs to be
controlled and steered. We can do this by applying the brake
(sublimation) and then releasing it (masturbation.)
Every man is different and must find his own formula.
The world is run by a satanic (Cabalist i.e. Masonic Jewish) sex cult
based in London which controls brainwashing (media and education.) They
use sex to distract, degrade and control both men and women. The New
World Order plan is to restore the feudal model in which we are serfs at
best. They undermine resistance to their plot by destroying our sources
of cohesion and identity: nation, race, religion and family.
Slavery begins with the mind. We can resist by not being controlled by
sex. [emphasis mine]
SOURCE:
Managing The
Male Sex Drive
Men
are under Satanic attack today, and if you are not aware of what is
happening, you may end up in prison for the rest of your life with
thousands of other unsuspecting men, who were naive to the demonic
conspiracy to destroy men in these end times of Bible prophecy! And of
course, many men are fully aware, but the FLESH IS WEAK the Holy Bible says.
Mark 14:38, “Watch ye and pray, lest ye enter into temptation. The spirit
truly is ready, but the flesh is weak.” No one is invulnerable to sexual
temptation. The key is to put as many safeguard barriers between our self
and sin as possible! For example: A newly married couple should break off
contact with their old single friends. Pastor Jack Hyles (1926-2001) teaches
this safeguard in his very helpful MP3 sermon titled, “Slippery
When Wet!”
Another safeguard is for a
single man to masturbate at home, before he knows he will be around women at
church (some of whom dress promiscuously these days), or in a situation
where temptation may arise. This helps a man be in control, instead of
suffering from desire. Ideally, marriage is best, but in the case of
a divorced man where God forbids him to remarry, it is better to satisfy
one's self “THAN TO BURN,” as the Bible teaches (1st Corinthians
7:9). There is nothing to be ashamed of, but I don't think a man should talk
openly about this in public, because it is inappropriate. People WILL make
fun of you, because they are cruel. I am being honest and transparent for
the sake of other men, especially my Christian brethren, to help you. There
is nothing sinful about masturbating to prevent yourself from committing
sexual sin!!! It is actually a wise thing to do my friend. Yes, masturbation
is a wise thing to do, if it will help prevent sexual immorality and perhaps
even prevent destroying someone's life. From this standpoint, masturbation
should be considered a healthy practice for men who have no other
alternative than to sin.
Of all the vices, sexual lust
is the worst! Pastor Jack Hyles used to wisely say to young men with sexual
problems: “You're not over-sexed, you're under-charactered!” I agree with
that statement, but it is also true that people vary in sex drive. Some
people do a have much stronger sex drive than others! This is true of men
and women. That is why I am teaching the truth that masturbation is proper
for people who need it. I do not think a married person should masturbate,
and you shouldn't need to if your spouse has a godly attitude. 1st
Corinthians 7:4, “The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband:
and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.”
This Bible verse simply means that you ought never deny a request for
sex from your spouse. Many many and woman have been compelled to commit
adultery because of a romantically distant partner. I like the
bumper-sticker which reads: The secret to a happy marriage is NOBODY
WEARS THE PANTS! Sex is the fire in a marriage.
Carnal knowledge (sex) is a
beautiful thing made by God. It was the Lord Himself that designed our human
bodies. Psalms 139:14, “I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and
wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth
right well.” Sex is a beautiful thing within the proper bounds of a
legal marriage. It is tragic when the sacredness of marriage is violated.
Americans society today has sunk to the lowest possible moral level,
permitting homosexuals to get marriage and even adopt children. Thank God
for the traditional marriage and family! I get frustrated when I listen to
the Old Testament, when I hear about saints who had dozens of wives. Solomon
had 700 wives and 300 concubines. A concubine didn't have the same
rights as a wife. I learned the other day that Solomon's son followed in his
father's sex-perverted behavior, having 60 wives and 18 concubines and 88
children! I get frustrated when I hear things like that, and I don't have
even one wife, and am all alone.
I am often reminded of a
Scripture that says the time will come when SEVEN WOMEN will grab a hold of
one man, begging to be his wife. Isaiah 4:1, “And in that day seven women
shall take hold of one man, saying, We will eat our own bread, and wear our
own apparel: only let us be called by thy name, to take away our reproach.”
Wow! I want to be that lucky guy! In 2019, men are running away from
American women—because they are proud feminists, fat as cows, divorced,
having two or more children, and only still in their 20's! And those women
all have shopping lists for the type of man they want. Women today want a
man to “complete” her, but God made Eve to complete Adam, a “help meet”
(Genesis 2:18).
I admire Job, a godly man who
likely lived at the same time as the book of Genesis, who only married ONE
WIFE. Job struggled with lust like we do today, which is why he said in
Job 31:1, “I made a covenant with mine eyes; why then should I think upon a
maid?” Notice that Job mentioned THINKING. A man first sees with his
eyes, and then he lusts with his mind. So like Job, we need to be wise and
not look in the first place. Job said: I made a covenant with my eyes!
Job didn't make any promises to God, which is a serious matter if
broken, but instead he did make an agreement with himself to live right. I
have done the same thing as Job, and I encourage you dear reader to do the
same. Men can still live right in 2019!
Coping in These Perilous
Times
May I say again, with all
Biblical certainty, there is nothing
sinful about masturbation, and for some men it is a necessary way of life.
NO MAN wants to live that way, but in this crazy ungodly generation where
beautiful women are becoming lesbians, and many others are pursuing secular
careers (not interested in marriage or motherhood), what is a guy to
do? A man does what he has to do to cope with his situation.
I am 100%
against prisons, which is the number one cause for men and women becoming
homosexuals behind bars. Women as well as men turn into homosexuals because
of the intense sex drive, which cannot merely be disregarded and tuned off
like a coffee maker. Some people have it worse than others, but any normal
person (especially men) have this bodily need. Even some of the prison
guards succumb to sexual temptation with the prisons (both male and
female). This evidences the powerful drives at work within the human body
and soul. 1st Peter 2:11, “Dearly
beloved, I beseech you as strangers and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly
lusts, which war against the soul.” The sex urge wars against the
human soul the Bible warns.
ABOVE: This is
a snapshot
from a YouTube video (Title: Millions Of Single Chinese Men
Desperately Seeking A Wife). There are 71,000,000
More Men Than Women in China today. This is due to China's One Child
Policy passed in 1979. In 2015 the Chinese government changed it to a
Two Child Policy. Here we see how communist oppression, and manmade
tampering with God's creation, always wreaks havoc. When left alone, God
has made it so that the balance between male and female is always very
close to 50/50. It is tragic that any man should have to resort to such
drastic measures to cope with life! Every man needs a real wife.
Literally, wives are being kidnapped throughout China, raped and made
another man's wife! This often happens in the remote mountains.
Why do you think thousands
of Roman Catholics priests get into sexual trouble? There have been 50,000
reported cases of sexual abuse within the Catholic church since 1950 in the
United States. It is because of the Vatican's unscriptural prohibition for
priests to get married to wives! What saith the Scripture? ...
1st
Timothy 4:1-3, “Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter
times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits,
and doctrines of
devils;
Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot
iron; Forbidding
to marry, and
commanding to abstain from meats, which God hath created to be received
with thanksgiving of them which believe and know the truth.”
Every man ought to have his
own wife, and every wife ought to have her own husband (1st Corinthians
7:1-2). God's solution to fornication is to get married. Also, please
understand that I am not endorsing masturbation as a healthy way for anyone
to live, but it is far more healthy than fornicating. 1st Corinthians
6:18, “Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but
he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.” The
preceding Bible
verse warns of Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD's), which in Bible times
had no cures. Sexual sins are damaging, because they form “SOUL TIES” with
the partners involved, and that undermines a person's soul.
The bad thing about
masturbation is that doing it over a prolonged period of years, breaks down
a man's self-confidence, making him feel inferior and less of a man. It is
not a mere coincidence that America and other developed societies are
completely dysfunctional these days—because of the damaging influence of
feminist rebellion promoted through the ungodly media, the ungodly LGBTQ
movement, the lucrative greedy divorce racket perpetrated by the courts, depriving children of
the truth in the Holy Bible (and replacing it with teaching
children the blatant fraud of Evolution), counterfeit churches who sanction
hundreds of corrupt Bible versions, et cetera. For these evils and many
more, first world civilizations today (Australia, Europe, the United States,
China, Japan) have become a nightmare in which to try to find a husband or
wife!
A Century Ago Versus Today
Women
are no longer approachable (including Christian women). A century ago little
girls all played with dolls, wore dresses and cherished the thought of
becoming a wife and mother someday. Boys did chores, mowed neighbour's lawns
and learned to work and be responsible at a very young age. So by the time
they were 14 years old, young men were mature, and young women were mature.
They often married young in the southern states at age 14 and stayed married
for life! Men went to work and provided for the family, and women stayed
home to care for her family, preparing a proper dinner for a couple hours,
helping the kids with their school work, and having plenty of duties to keep
herself busy. Women loved their husbands back then, and were honored to be a
homemaker, because that is what all the other women were also doing. Those were the good old days!
Today, in sharp and horrible contrast, little girls are wearing high heels and lip gloss,
playing with electronic gadgets (cellphones and surfing the web) instead of
dolls, consumed with finding a “hot guy” for dating instead of playing
hide-and-seek, taught by example from
Walt Disney and their
raunchy music
idols to fornicate (premarital sex), which is destructive to a
youth's future. Kids have it all backwards today, jumping from adolescence
to adulthood and completely bypassing their juvenile years as a teenager,
which ought to be some of the most fun, exciting and meaningful years of life. It is
terrible to see kids become parents at 14 years of age, missing out on a
proper courtship and enjoying the normal growth years while being a teenager!
Young boys should be taught life's skills in high school (how to throw and
catch a ball, how to use a saw to cut a board, how to pound a nail into
wood, how to perform basic tasks on a car (i.e., changing a tire, adding
fluids to their proper compartment, using jumper cables, et cetera).
There is nothing as beautiful
as a legal marriage between one man and one woman for a lifetime. My parents
went through many difficult times, and had lots of fights and marital
troubles, but they were together for 36 YEARS until my mother went to Heaven
in 2001. Praise the Lord for longevity in marriage!
Practical Advice About
Masturbation
To
masturbate, a man ought not use
his hand, because that is not very satisfying. Here's what you do
guys—take a larger size pillow (or one that is comfortable for you), and
place about seven napkins on the center of the pillow, then fold the
pillow in half to simulate a woman. With a little imagination it does
the job. Please don't quote me on that...lol.
Granted,
there's nothing like the real thing, but once you are finished (whether you
be married or alone without a woman) your will be relieved and be able to
sleep at night, and cope with your difficult situation. I am being very
transparent and honest to help other men. The pillow is MUCH BETTER than the
hand (i.e., Rosy Palm and her five sisters). If you think I'm a pervert, then you
are a rotten person for judging a man who doesn't have a wife, and you are
woefully ignorant of how a man's body works. Men aren't like women, they
can't just turn off their sex drive. Thus, masturbation is sometimes
necessary and nothing to be ashamed of fellas. As Pastor Jack Hyles wisely
said: I don't have a dirty mind, I have a man's mind!
If I were a king over a land,
I would make sure that every man in my kingdom had a wife, and every wife a
husband. THAT IS BIBLICAL! 1st Corinthians 7:1-2, “Now concerning the
things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and
let every woman have her own husband.” If a man is to avoid the sin
of fornication, he has one of two choices: To find a wife, or masturbate!
I would 10,000 times prefer the wife, but I haven't found her yet!
If the Lord puts me in charge of a city during His millennial reign (because
the Scripture teaches we will reign with Him - Revelation 20:6), I will make
sure that everyone is married. People simply don't care about each other in
these apostate times. All the Bible colleges and churches want is money!
As of 2019, I have lived alone
for 13 difficult years without a mate, coming home each day to a kitchen
sink and refrigerator; so be encouraged dear reader, if you are alone, if you are also without
a mate, I understand and share your grief and frustration. 1st Peter
5:8-9, “Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a
roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour: Whom resist
stedfast in the faith, knowing that the same afflictions are accomplished
in your brethren that are in the world.” I wrote this article
knowing that 99 our of 100 readers will go away laughing and mocking me, but
that 1 person who is in my situation will love me for writing this, to
encourage your soul. That is the dear mind of our precious Savior.
Matthew 18:12, “How think ye? if a man have an hundred sheep, and one of
them be gone astray, doth he not leave the ninety and nine, and goeth into
the mountains, and seeketh that which is gone astray?”
There are some nice benefits
to being single; such as, total freedom, no one to fight with, no one to
mess up the house, no one to call the cops on me, no one to drag me into
court, no one to ruin my life again, no one to mess with my stuff, no one to
aggravate my neck pain, no one to complain and cause me grief (like my x-wife
did for 18 years). Albeit, I saw a man and his wife arguing in the local
grocery store, and I wished that I had a wife to fuss with. So I am 100%
against the increasingly popular MGTOW movement (Men Going Their Own Way!).
I very much have been searching for a wife, to no avail, but after 13 years
I am starting to often think about an MP3 sermon I heard by Pastor Hyles
titled, "Let
Yourself Know What Yourself Already Knows!” It seems like I am never
going to be remarried, unfortunately, but by God's grace I would like to.
The Lord Jesus knows what is best, and I love Him more every day.
Tens of millions of men live
alone today, for many reasons. As a man grows older, his chances of getting
married significantly decreases. In China and other places in the world,
parents actually pay money to find their sons a wife. This is a lot more
popular than you might realize. I have watched several dozens of YouTube
documentaries about marrying a foreign bride. In South Korea, men say that their women are Americanized
(bossy, feminist and difficult to control), so South Korean men are going to
other countries, primarily Vietnam to
find a wife!
In China, because of the
communist government's One Child Policy since 1979, decades later
there is a surplus of 20,000,000 Chinese men (and thus shortage of
20,000,000 women) who cannot find wives. Men are losing their minds, and so
the answer for many men are life-size women manikins to have sex with! The reason for the shortage
of women is that parents prefer a boy to carry on the family heritage. China
in 2015 changed it's horrible policy to a less oppressive Two Child
Policy; and it is also now against Chinese law for doctors to tell
parents the gender of their child before giving birth (but through bribes
many still do it). What is a lonely man to do?
A lot of men are like old
dogs—quiet, cranky and they don't want their chain yanked until it's dinner
time! I'm somewhat that way at age 52. I have read several hundred dating
profiles of women over the past 2 years. Many are into extreme sports, but I
hate sports of all kinds! Others want a man to “complete them,” but that is
backwards, because God created Eve to be a “HELP MEET” for Adam. Genesis
2:18, “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone;
I will make him an help meet for him.” I kindly smile at women
when I go walking in the park, hoping to meet someone. Some look at me like
they hate me. Others won't go walking anymore. A couple of them brought
their boyfriends back, to let me know they are not available. What's a poor
guy to do? Pakistan is on the brink
of bankruptcy and poor ungodly parents are selling their allegedly
Christian daughters to marry Chinese
men. Many of the girls are abused and then returned back to Pakistan,
after being impregnated and the child is kept in China. Truly the love of
money is the root of all evil (1st Timothy 6:10).
The apostle Paul was not your
average guy. We cannot use Paul as an example of how unmarried men are
supposed to live, because Paul plainly called his predicament without a
wife, “A GIFT.” 1st Corinthians 7:7, “For I would that all men were even
as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this
manner, and another after that.” Most men don't have that gift of
celibacy, nor do I. I hate living alone and long for the day I can find a
wife, Lord willing. 1st Corinthians 7:27-28, “Art thou bound unto a wife?
seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. But and
if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not
sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.”
The Bible does not forbid looking for a wife if unmarried, but Paul
recommends it. There will be “TROUBLE IN THE FLESH” in any marriage,
because you are uniting two sinners.
Pastor Jack Hyles wisely said:
Divorce is a sin that perpetuates for a lifetime. 1st Corinthians
7:9, “But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry
than to burn.” When a person files for divorce, they are forcing their
spouse to commit adultery by remarrying another. GOD HATES DIVORCE (Jeremiah
3:20; Malachi 2:16). There is not a more controversial, debated and heated
topic than divorce and remarriage. Thus, I tread on sacred soil lightly. If
you talk to a dozen different preachers on the matter, you'll get a dozen
different answers; and each preacher will claim that he is going strictly by
WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS! Kindly, I heard a Baptist preacher say: Sex is the
most overrated thing in the world! However, that is an
oversimplification of the matter, because men are going to prison left and
right due to sexual misbehavior (and women too!). The solution is not to
pretend like there is not a problem, but to deal with it.
1st Peter 2:11, “Dearly
beloved, I beseech you as strangers
and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the soul.”
Committing sexual sins leads
to more sexual sins! Please hear the MP3 sermon be Pastor Jack Hyles called,
“IRON-YOKE
MAKERS!”
I wish there were a law in the
United States like in the Philippines, where divorce is never permitted for
any reason, then I wouldn't be in this situation! But once there is a
divorce—terrorizing a man with the ungodly U.S. court system, stripping him
of his home and finances, robbing him of all confidence as a sovereign man,
causing him inexplicable emotional trauma and pain of soul, and utterly
ruining his life—trust becomes a major issue in remarriage. There is nothing
worse than a fool for a wife! Proverbs 31:12, “She will do him good and
not evil all the days of her life.”
Evangelist John R. Rice
(1895-1980) hints to the need for masturbation in the following writing:
Somebody says, 'Oh, but
this homosexual matter—people are made that way.' No. Everybody is made
a sinner. Everybody has some sex drive. Everybody would like to satisfy
it some way, particularly men. Whether through a woman, or whether it is
with a beast, or whether it is with a man, the truth is, it is all the
same sin. God
has ways for men to have control over themselves and do right!
You need not call it sickness; it is wicked sin. [emphasis added]
SOURCE: Dr. John R. Rice — “Adultery
and Sex Perversion” (booklet), pg. 17-18; copyright 1978; Sword
Of The Lord Publishers.
The only way that a man can
have control over himself to satisfy his sexual urge is through
MASTURBATION!
If a man lives alone, and
knows that he will be tempted at church around women (especially in today's
ungodly American culture where women wear miniskirts to church), he would be
wise to masturbate before going to church, to remove that urge which will
make him uncomfortable at church. I think that is wisdom.
I was sitting in church one
Sunday morning, and a young woman came and sat beside me. She seemed about
18. For some reason she kept crossing her legs, dozens of times throughout
the church service. She was wearing a skirt which revealed a portion of her
thighs. She crossed her legs so much that I still sincerely think she was
deliberately trying to seduce me for some reason. It made me uncomfortable,
but I was able to ignore her because of what I just told you. Had I not been
prepared for her, I would have had to leave the service in great discomfort.
Women don't understand how rough men have it, they really don't.
And sadly,
some of them do know, and they enjoy watching men squirm in agony.
Proverbs 6:26, “For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece
of bread: and the adulteress will hunt for the precious life.”
For some women, teasing men sexually is a sport to them, covering their
home wall with the stuffed mantles of lions, tigers and men! The sexual
urge is not something that should merely be ignored, it needs to be dealt
with, to protect one's soul from sin. Masturbation is helpful and normal for
a single man without a wife, when needed. There is nothing to be ashamed about or
embarrassed about masturbation, but I wouldn't go around talking about it in
public. That would fall under the acronym “TMI” (too much information). Keep
it to yourself, unless helping another man, as I am helping others.
I was on an airplane flying
from Guam to California for my second major neck surgery in 2010. I sat next
to a Caucasian religious man—a speaking-in-tongues, healing crusade, Charismatic, with a Korean woman for a corrupt pastor in Colorado—who was
reading a corrupt New King James Bible. He was talking with the man
on his right for about an hour into the flight, and then he began to talk
with me (unfortunately). He said he was a retired commercial airplane pilot,
with 20 years experience flying the friendly skies. We began to talk and
then he startled me, enumerating his many sins by name, one of which (in his
mind) was MASTURBATION! He said it loud enough for passengers around us to
hear. All I could think is how bold this guy was to admit such a thing
openly, in the presence of women on a plane. Dr. Jack Hyles use to wisely
say: Don't be reluctant to admit to others that you have feet of clay,
but don't ever show them your feet!
No where in the Bible are we taught
that self-gratification is a sin. Sex is a need. The Holy Bible talks about
the “BURN” of sexual desire. 1st Corinthians 7:9, “But if they cannot
contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.”
As
Dr. John R. Rice rightly teaches—everybody has some sexual desire and
wants to satisfy it one way or another, particularly men! Why would God be
upset with a man for doing the one thing that he can do to relieve himself
of THE BURN, which doesn't involve committing a sin?
