1st Corinthians 7:1 plainly teaches that it is “NOT GOOD” for a man to touch a woman to whom he is not married. Men are attracted by sight, but women by touch. It is a very foolish and wrong thing for men to place their hands on women in my opinion. I think every Christian woman needs to tell any man who touches her, even on the shoulder, “I don't like that.” I know men, because I am one! Men will test the perimeters, seeing what they can get away with.
Ladies, never let a man
touch you except your own husband! And if a man to whom you are not married
does touch you, you need to make a big deal over it. You tell him, “Do not
touch me!” You don't have to say, “please,” but I would, giving him the
benefit of the doubt that perhaps he meant it in a proper way. Christians who
walk with the Lord ALWAYS give others the benefit of the doubt. If he laughs
or makes light of it, then you go get your husband and the pastor, or your
boss, or a witness if need be. It is a serious matter! NO ONE has a right to
touch you except your lawful spouse!!!
In Proverbs the Bible says that whosoever goeth in unto his neighbour's wife
and “toucheth her,” shall not be innocent. Proverbs 6:29, “So he that goeth
in to his neighbour's wife; whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent.” I believe it is sinful for a man to
even touch another man's wife. And certainly, kissing could end up being the
stuff that fights are made of. If I saw a guy kiss my wife, one of us would
get hurt! Of course, I'm not married, but I am the jealous type, as is our
great God. The Old Testament even says that God's middle name is “Jealous.” Exodus 34:14, “For thou shalt worship no other god: for the LORD, whose name
is Jealous, is a jealous God.” Envy is sinful, wanting the other guy's
wife; but jealousy is godly, wanting my own wife.
No one, married or
unmarried, should ever touch the opposite
sex. We live in a sacrilegious society today, were nothing is held as being
sacred anymore. The human body is sacred. “Sacred” is something that is
important to God. Marriage is sacred. Death is sacred. Child birth is sacred.
The Holy Bible is sacred. Life is sacred to God. A reckless society that can
murder human life in the womb is capable of committing any evil imaginable!!!
I also think it is VERY bad for women to touch men. I have been unmarried for
12 years. If a woman hugged on me, married or unmarried, I'd fall in love with
her instantly. I know me. I have to be real careful since I know I am this
way. I am an emotional person, and like everyone else, I love attention. I
NEVER touch a woman for these reasons. It is a very foolish thing for a woman
to praise a man to whom she is not married, because he may very likely fall in
love with her, especially if she is even the least bit attractive. Since I am
a Christian, and have the Lord's mind (1st Corinthians 2:16), I see these
things; but an unsaved person may not.
I remember when I attended Harvest Baptist Church in 2013-2014 that one of the
women on their staff, a nurse, was single. I saw her repeatedly hugging on a
married man, kind of like brother and sister, they would say. But I was
jealous, because I was single and had feelings for the nurse. I remember that
it bothered me that she was hugging on a married man, and his wife didn't have
a problem with it. But when I went over just to talk with his wife at a church
outdoor picnic, he immediately came over, concerned what was being said. What
hypocrisy! So he can let other single women hang all over him, but other men
can't even talk to his wife without him being paranoid. Now, I certainly don't
have a problem with a man being concerned about his wife and another man
talking, especially if I even think for a second that their might be some
attraction between either of them, but letting a single woman touch him is
very wrong in my humble opinion. These are all professed Christians. The nurse
is a Bob Jones University graduate. And as my words prove, people see how we
live, as I saw what they were doing.
The Bible teaches for believers to "abstain from all appearance of evil" in
1st Thessalonians 5:22. This is another reason why I think kissing and hugging
between the opposite sex ought not be done. I firmly believe that the Holy
Bible is speaking of kissing between men, on the cheek. I remember when Dr.
Joe Boyd was dying, Pastor Jack Hyles' childhood and lifetime friend, that
Brother Hyles kissed Joe on the brow of his head in the hospital. I admire
that kind of brotherly love, and we need a lot more of that in the churches
today. Women can kiss women on the cheek, and men other men, which I think is
appropriate in certain cultures. Granted, kissing on the cheek is NOT part of
our American culture. I think in Greece they do that and Italy, but not
America. It is not a biblical command. The point of the Scriptures is to LOVE
our neighbour as our self, and especially our Christian brethren.
I hope that helps. You've asked a good question, which I think I will turn
into an article to help others.
“Now you say, 'Brother Hyles, you make an issue.' You dead sure better know I'll make an issue!” —BATTLE OF THE AGES (MP3, Dr. Jack Hyles, “The King James Bible crowd is going to come out on top!”)
