I gave the man my heartfelt opinion
and it greatly offended him. Folks, if you write to me, don't expect anything
other than the truth, gently but lovingly spoken to you. I would never
intentionally be unkind or mean to anyone, that is not my personality, nor the
fruit of the indwelling Spirit (Galatians 5:22-25). I love my web visitors and
want to be a blessing. I have had to block a few people out, who were abusive
in their tone, belittling me as a person and attackative in their words,
foolish. Proverb 14:7, “Go from the presence of a foolish man, when thou
perceivest not in him the lips of knowledge.” Of the thousands of e-mails
that I receive, I'm certain I have blocked less than 1% total. I don't block
people for having their own contrary opinion. You can be an atheist and I will
welcome you with open arms into my ministry, just so long as you return that
respect for my right to believe as I do. But if you attack my person, making
it clear to me that you have no interest in my help, then why wouldn't I block
such a troublemaker?
Proverbs 23:9, “Speak not in the
ears of a fool: for he will despise the wisdom of thy words.”
Shacking-Up is a Sin
“Shacking-up”
as it is called in the United States is the sin of fornication. I have to be
careful when responding to e-mails, because I am so loving in my heart that
there is a temptation at times to coddle people in their sins, to sanction and
encourage them in their wrong ways, just to make them feel better. But I
refuse to go there and become like that, which would make me a horrible
Christian and bad preacher if I did that. It is not okay to make somebody feel
okay who is living in sin. The frustrated man who wrote to me is upset that
his girlfriend left him, but since he never married her, he has no biblical or
legal right to complain! She is not his wife! He is not her husband! Perhaps
you say, “Well, they were living together as a man and wife, so maybe God sees
them as married.” Okay, then why get married? I'll tell you why, because
without a legally binding marriage there is no way to hold someone accountable
for committing adultery! And here is biblical “proof” that shacking-up is NOT
the same as marriage. 1st
Corinthians 7:2, “Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let
every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own
husband.” So if shacking-up were considered marriage in God's eyes, then
why would God tell a person to get married to avoid fornicating? Clearly,
living together, that is, cohabiting in a physically intimate relationship, is
not a marriage in God's sight.
Again, “Shacking-up” as it is called in the United States is the sin of
fornication. 1st Corinthians 6:18, “Flee fornication. Every sin that a man
doeth is without the body; but he that committeth
fornication sinneth against his own body.” People have lost
their shame in Europe, Australia, the United States and around the world. It
is a very shameful thing for a woman to be pregnant and unmarried.
Congratulations On Your
Bastard! (tough love preaching by Pastor Steven L. Anderson; pregnancies out of wedlock are terrible, tragic and
shame). When I was a kid, I remember that alcohol was sold in the
back of grocery stores, hidden from view. But today, on Guam where I live,
they sell “Guam Beer” at K-mart at the checkout lines, having no shame. All
along Marine Drive (the main street around the island), there are flowers and
memorials where deadly accidents have claimed the lives of loved ones, nearly
all because of the consequences of alcohol-impaired riving. Drunkenness is
epidemic on Guam. We don't have 8-inch street light poles on Guam; but rather,
3-foot think concrete beams to withstand the incredible power of typhoons.
These poles are where many drunk drivers have met their Maker, dead at the
scene. Drunkenness is a sin! Fornication is a sin! Adultery is a sin!
Adultery is breaking one's marriage vows, being unfaithful to one's spouse. No
doubt some people would say, “Well what if my spouse gave me permission?” God
didn't give you permission!
Hebrews 13:4,
“Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and
adulterers God will judge.” NO ONE has God's
permission to sin! No one! It may be true that you didn't “cheat” on your
spouse if he or she gave you permission, but you did cheat on God, because He
commands every human being to live right. I say this because there are many
“swingers” in society today, which has become a disturbing trend in America.
Please understand that I am not condemning anybody. If you want to find a big
sinner, then you've already found him. I am a guilty sinner, just like you,
just like everybody else! Romans 3:23, “For all have
sinned, and come short of the glory of God.” So I judge no man.
Shacking-Up in Fornication
Keeps the Ungodly Abortion Industry Going
Fornication
is a horrible sin, which has fueled the abortion industry since the 1960's in
America. A shocking 83% of all abortions are by unwed mothers![1]
By 1973, when the federal government (big brother) stepped in and forced
abortion upon all 50 states, 37 states had already legalized abortion. How
shameful and evil! And may I say, to abort a child is to needlessly take the
life of an innocent human being, depriving them of all the privileges, rights
and blessings that God intended for them to have in life. NO ONE has a right
to destroy another person's life. The ungodly U.S. Supreme Court, and all
Americans who remain silent about abortion, have blood on their hands and are
to blame. Our government does what they do IN OUR NAME, and WITH OUR MONEY, so
it is OUR BUSINESS!!! Abortion is nothing less than cold-blooded murder!!! I
praise God for every young mother, who against every manner of adversity and
hardship, still chose to have her baby. GOOD FOR YOU! AND GOOD FOR BABY!
Praise God for responsible mothers!
By the way, having an abortion doesn't make a woman unpregnant, it just
makes her the mother of a dead baby!!! I am not condemning any woman who has
had an abortion. There is forgiveness through the precious blood of Jesus
Christ.
When You
Hit Bottom (MP3 by Dr. Jack Hyles, “The everlasting arms are at
the bottom of sin tonight!”). God wants to forgive you, and He promises to,
but only on the basis of what Christ did through the cross to pay for your
sins. There is no forgiveness any other way! Sadly,
in Russia, MOST mothers murder their baby by abortion!!! What a horrible
crime against God and humanity!
If I were a king with unlimited
power, I'd burn every Planned Parenthood center to the ground. You'll find
that in many places abortion clinics are unmarked, so that the public would
never suspect humans are murdered there. It is reminiscent of the horror movie
starring Charleton Heston called, “Soylent
Green.” In this film, the government is taking dead people and turning
them into food for the living. Of course, it is all done in secret, hiding it
from the public. In reality,
sicko companies have been caught using aborted babies to enhance food flavor!
If you think that is bad, hospitals in Europe have been
using aborted fetuses for fuel to heat
their hospitals. The shocking movie “Soylent Green” is now a reality!
SOYLENT GREEN IS PEOPLE!! ABORTED BABIES ARE BEING USED FOR FOOD AND FUEL!!!
Brother Lester Roloff (1914-1982) is so right: The world has gone insane and
the inmates are running the asylum!!! Scotty, beam me up!
The entire abortion industry would
virtually disappear overnight if Americans would stop fornicating, shacking-up
instead of getting married. A shocking 83% of all abortions are by unwed
mothers![1]
Only 14% of married woman have abortions.[2]
The most common reasons given (which are all irresponsible excuses) are lack
of money, trouble in the relationship, too much pressure and being a single
parent.[2]
The truth is that all those women need to GET RIGHT WITH GOD!!! There is no
excuse for murder. You dropped your pants, now take responsibility for your
behavior. That's the big problem in America today, people are not held
accountable for many of their horrible decisions. People get away with lying,
cheating, stealing, sexual immorality and even murder! My intend is never to
scold anyone who has messed up, but to keep those who haven't messed up yet
from doing so!
You Have No Rightful Claim To
a Girlfriend Or Boyfriend
Likewise, the man whom I was honest
with, about his former girlfriend who left him. I wasn't trying to scold him
for what he had done; but rather, to help him. He is talking about his
“possessive nature” and having a hard time letting her go. He needed to hear
the plain, hard, truth, which is that she was never his to begin with, because
he never married her. She has ever right to walk away!!! That hurts, I know,
and it may not seem fair, but if you want to be able to claim somebody, YOU
MUST MARRY THEM LEGALLY!!! The Bible plainly teaches that the husband OWNS his
wife! And the wife OWNS her husband! That is solid Bible my friend!!! 1st
Corinthians 7:4-5a, “The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband:
and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
Defraud ye not one the other...” Literally, this verse means that a
husband and wife should submit to each other's intimate advances and needs any
time they want each other! But this ONLY applies to a legally-binding
marriage!!!
Some people may get the wrong idea
from some of the articles I share on my website, about warning men to be
careful if they get married. My intend in sharing these articles is never to
encouraging shacking-up; but rather, to warn men about what can happen if
things go wrong in a marriage, and to help them be cautious before just
marrying anybody.
A person MUST be a born-again
believer BEFORE you marry them (2nd Corinthians 6:14). What you see is what
you get, and don't ever deceive yourself into thinking that you will change
someone after marrying them. I guarantee you that whatever it is about a
person that annoys you today, will be ten times worse later if you marry them.
If you think they are weird now, you haven't seen anything yet! I have
received so many e-mails from good people, believers, who knowingly married an
unsaved person, and now they are paying the price, dearly! I always try to
help them, as best that I can, but they are stuck. Be very careful who you
choose as a partner in life, because it is for life, for better or worse!
But to claim somebody as your very
own, you must GET LEGALLY MARRIED!
Don't Blame and Attack Others
for Your Failures in Life
The
angry man who sent me the aforementioned e-mail, because I told him the truth
that he had no right to claim a mere girlfriend, wrote back in hate,
condemning me for my wife divorcing me back in 2006 (which I have openly
shared with all my web visitors since it happened 12 years ago, which I had
absolutely no control over). You see, the man is angry at me for telling him
the truth. The truth hurts, doesn't it? I am a preacher, so I am supposed to
speak the truth, right? I got married in 1987 and was married for 18 years,
and I would still be married if my wife hadn't quit in 2006. That was her
decision. I have forgiven her, long ago. I am her friend today. I love her
with God's unconditional love, help her financially voluntarily, but we will
never remarry, for numerous reasons, which is nobody's business. Since she
made the decision to divorce me in 2006, and I fought to stop the divorce, but
couldn't, I have every biblical and legal right to remarry, if I so choose.
What Does the Bible Say About
Divorce and Remarriage?
I have received countless letters
from wounded people, victims of divorce, who are having a hard time sorting it
all out. And to make matters much worse, preachers have dozens of different
opinions on marriage, divorce and remarriage. So my advice to everyone is
this. First, no matter what you do some people are going to criticize you.
Many of them are sincere, they are just locked into certain preconceived
ideas. Love those critics, and don't take their hateful words to heart. The
only opinion that matters is God's opinion.
I recently received an e-mail from a
divorced man, who has now remarried, but he has felt guilt about it for many
years. I shared with him the following Bible verse from 1st Corinthians
7:2, “Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have
his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.” This
Bible verse doesn't say... if you've never been married before! No, it says
LET EVERY MAN HAVE HIS OWN WIFE, AND LET EVERY WOMAN HAVE HER OWN HUSBAND. So
that means if you are divorced, to avoid fornication, you ought to get
married. That is what the Word of God says in plain words my friend!!! Argue
if you will, that is what God says! The way to stop fornicating is to GET
MARRIED!!!
Now the apostle Paul was either
divorced or a widower. Paul was “loosed” from a wife (1st
Corinthians 7:27). 1st Corinthians 7:8-9, “I say therefore to the
unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they
cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.”
Biblically, if a person is divorced, it is best to remain single, BUT if they
are being tempted to fornicate, then they should remarry. That is what the
Bible says. Perhaps you say it is “adultery” for some people to remarry.
Clearly, it is never right to commit the sin of adultery, yet there is no way
to reconcile Paul's teaching in 1st Corinthians 7:2 to marry to avoid
fornication, with the idea that remarriage is never permitted.
For the past 12 years I have lived
as the apostle Paul, and it hasn't always been easy, but I can do all things
through Christ which strengtheneth me! You cannot tell someone to “deal with
it” and be alone. Very few men can live without a woman, which is why the
prisons are filled with homosexuals (men who never would have done so had they
not been incarcerated). Prisons ruin lives! I am 100% against prisons! God
never instituted prisons, neither for man nor beast! God created men and
animals to be free. The Holy Bible gives very specific ways to deal with
criminals, none of which involves locking men in cages like wild beasts, and
passing the financial burden to taxpayers. Men are prone to evil and rarely
listen to God, which is why the world is so messed up!
When the Lord spoke out against
adultery, you must keep in mind the spirit in which He said it. The Pharisees
were looking for a way to justify divorce. So the Lord rebuked them sternly
and warned them that to do so would make them guilty of adultery. But this is
quite different than someone who has already made this mistake in life, and
are now divorced, for whatever reason, and they are alone and hurting. I say
that person ought to remarry rather than “burn” in lust and loneliness, and
that is exactly what 1st Corinthians 7:2 and 7:8-9 teach. Again,
you cannot merely interpret Matthew 19:9 (which forbids divorce and
remarriage), without taking into consideration 1st Corinthians 7:2 (which says
to marry to aroid fornication). Clearly then, there is a deeper meaning. There
are far too many hypothetical situations to address in this brief article, but
I know the Lord looks at all the facts, the pureness of one's intentions, and
He judges the righteous. Fear God and keep His commandments!
God's Way is Marriage
Marriage is not just the
old-fashioned way, it is God's way! Hebrews 13:4 says,
“Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and
adulterers God will judge.” Shacking-up is a sin!!! If you refuse to marry
someone, yet want to enjoy the privileges of the married life, you are
bringing God's judgment down upon yourself! We lives in a perverse culture
today in America of whores and whoremongers. I am not judging anyone! God
wants most people to get married, with few exceptions. That is God's plan.
Walt Disney glorifies shacking-up and “relationships” (a key word for
fornication). When a woman says she's, “not in a relationship right now,” what
she really means is that she is taking a time-out from her whoring around.
She's a whore! She goes from one bum to the next! Any man who would have
premarital sex is a bum! Ladies, you can do better than that! You find you a
godly man who cares about you enough to put a ring on your finger and commit
himself only to you for life!
But if you shack-up with someone
outside of a lawful marriage, and they later dump you, it is your own fault
for not getting legally married. It is much harder to walk away from a
legally-binding marriage, then it is to just walk out then door from a
relationship. If you shack-up and your lover leaves you, don't come crying to
me, asking me how to control your “possessive spirit” for someone that was
never yours in the first place. The Holy Bible teaches us to get married
because God knows that nothing else works.
I recently received an e-mail from a frustrated man, who said, exact quote: 